For the women answering, roughly how much do your annual expenses for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) come to?

I’m Rin, a female member of SALON. I don’t think I spend much money specifically for this activity. I have bought a new dress for a first meeting before, but I can still wear it myself afterward. As for beauty treatments, I do them for myself, so I don’t expect my partner to cover those costs. That said, I really appreciate it when someone thinks about things the way you do and asks about them—it’s very helpful. Please ask your partner directly!

Are there really any necessary expenses for women? I’d buy clothes and cosmetics even if I weren’t meeting my papa, and I don’t spend particularly much on beauty either. I go to the hair salon regardless of my papa-katsu activities. Other than that, there’s not much. If I had to name something, it would be the transportation fare to the meeting place—usually just a few hundred yen from my home—and I bought three pairs of slightly sexy stockings at about ¥1,000 each. As for lingerie, I wear sexy ones all the time anyway, regardless of my papa. Marika Oh, so this was a question from a man! In that case, maybe I should have said I spend a lot on it?! Younger women might buy clothes specifically to appeal to their papas, separate from their regular clothes, so they might appreciate it if you ask them about that. Women in their late 30s and older might want to spend money on beauty if they had more than enough to spare.

I’m Dai, a male member. For example, if you usually see her on a pay-per-meeting basis for ¥50,000, but her necessary expenses come to ¥200,000 a year, so you give her that amount as a bonus at the end of the fiscal year, then it’s entirely up to you. In that case, the necessary expenses will differ from woman to woman, so I think it would be best to ask the woman you’re seeing. Personally, I see women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as independent business owners in a sense, so I don’t pry into how they use their allowance. I believe they should manage everything themselves, including their necessary expenses.

I’m Aya, a female member. Almost nothing. I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with basically nothing. Back then, I was so anxious about the future that I over-saved—I didn’t even own an iPhone and used an older secondhand Android instead. I bought cosmetics at drugstores, got my hair cut at places like $10 salons, and bought clothes on Mercari or at vintage shops. Even my underwear was the kind from Daisy Store that cost around ¥1,200 for a matching set. I think I was spending only about ¥1,500 a month on my appearance. I may have been the type to punish myself by refusing to spend money on myself. The papa (a male supporter) I met soon after I started bought me all of those things. From there, I gradually began spending a little more on beauty, clothes, and my hair. I feel lucky to have met a papa who liked the idea of polishing a “rough diamond” (not that I’m saying I was one). Even now, I still tend to save too much out of habit. When I’m not with a papa, I’m usually at home eating rice with natto. The most expensive piece of clothing I’ve ever bought is a ¥30,000 coat I got recently. It was half price on sale, but I agonized over it again and again before finally buying it. Then later, one of my papas said, “Even though I bought that for you,” which made me feel both happy and embarrassed.

I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the CEO’s office. > I’d like to use it as a reference for calculating the allowance. If you’re factoring in how much papa-katsu costs you when determining the allowance, that sounds pretty stingy. It feels like you’re blatantly trying to lower the allowance, as though you’ll eventually start telling her, “This is all you’re worth.” No matter how much you spend on papa-katsu, if it doesn’t meet the amount the woman wants, she can simply decline. Even if you claim that this is your basis for the amount, she only has to say no if it’s below what she’s asking for. You can tell her that your calculation shows this is the “appropriate” allowance, but what exactly makes it appropriate in the first place? If you meant that you wanted to cover the costs of papa-katsu separately, in addition to the allowance, that would make sense. But judging from your question, you’re saying those costs are necessary to determine the allowance itself, so I honestly don’t know what to make of it. There may be times when it helps to have a basis for your decision, but please keep it to yourself and don’t lecture the other person if she turns down your offer. Explaining your reasoning is no different from lecturing her. Women could come up with endless reasons of their own, too: “Because the wrinkles on your hands are this noticeable, add ¥20,000 to the allowance.” “Because your eyes aren’t bright enough, add ¥20,000.” “Because you’re not interesting to talk to, add ¥20,000.” “Because you weren’t considerate enough toward the staff, add ¥10,000.” If you want to, you can come up with endless justifications. But there’s no point in getting bogged down in something so pointless. What matters is whether you can offer the allowance she wants. If you can’t, just accept that it wasn’t meant to be and withdraw gracefully. You’ve had the chance to meet someone. Please make it an enjoyable experience for both of you.