I imagine many of you don’t like being asked to increase the allowance, but what’s the best way for a girl to bring it up so that you’d want to raise it? And what kind of girl makes you happy to give her a higher allowance?
This is Joe.
I think it’s fine to be straightforward and tell him what you want. As everyone says, though, if you only talk about your own wishes, there’s a good chance he’ll dislike it.
Try to think of a way to explain what benefit your papa (a male supporter) would get from increasing your allowance. It’s generally difficult to raise the price when there’s nothing in it for him.
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I’m extremely simple-minded, so if someone surprises me, I get happy and end up increasing his allowance.
My ace always prepares some kind of surprise, so before I knew it, my monthly arrangement had gone up to over ¥100,000. Though of course, it depends on the person.
As a strategy:
- Carefully wash his entire body—including his penis—in the bathroom
- Mix in some more assertive sex
- If it’s an exclusive one-on-one relationship, allow him to finish inside without a condom (controversial, obviously)
If you work hard at combining these, then suddenly tell him one day that you’re ending things, he might panic and increase your allowance by ¥10,000–¥20,000.
Basically, the idea is to make him fall for you.
That said, genuinely lovestruck papas are a real hassle, so as the other respondents have advised, I think it’s safest to look for a papa (a male supporter) who pays well and cut ties with the low-paying ones.
—Loser Guy
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Stay with that papa without trying to negotiate a higher allowance, and negotiate your desired allowance with the next person you meet for the first time.
Marika
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
People often talk about low-paying and generous papas, but I think it’s important to clarify what exactly qualifies someone as one or the other.
For example, if you define a generous papa or a low-paying papa solely by how high or low the allowance is per meeting, I think you should reconsider that way of thinking.
No matter how much allowance you receive, someone who only sees you once or twice is no different from a low-paying papa.
The longer you continue seeing someone, the more generous a papa they become.
Find a papa you can maintain a long-term relationship with.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
My standard terms are ¥50,000 per meeting, once a month, so I’m a low-paying papa (a male supporter).
The only times I’ve agreed when a woman negotiated for a higher allowance were when I wanted to keep seeing her anyway.
I also only agree when she isn’t seeing anyone else, or when I’m her first dating partner.
If she negotiates a second time, though, it never ends, so I part ways with her.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
A question for the female members:
I think many of you would hate to have your allowance reduced, but how should someone bring it up so that the arrangement can continue even with a lower allowance?
And what kind of papa would you be willing to accept a reduced allowance from?
Answer:
Almost impossible.
Even if you bring it up prepared to end things, and the arrangement somehow continues despite unavoidable circumstances, the relationship will still deteriorate. For both sides, if someone offering better terms comes along, they’ll move on to that person.
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the CEO’s office.
I think you’re more likely to want to increase a woman’s allowance if she doesn’t ask for anything. That said, if she says nothing, there’s probably a 99% chance things will simply stay as they are.
I’m sure you already realize that it’s difficult to get an allowance increase midway through an arrangement.
If that’s the case, I think it’s easier to tell a new papa what allowance you want from the very beginning. You may be worried that asking for a high amount upfront could get you rejected, but that’s essentially the same as saying you won’t be able to get that amount later on.
While continuing to value your current papa, I think you should tell any new prospects how much of an increase you’re looking for. If they can’t agree, you can simply continue with your current papa. If they say yes, you’ll have found an arrangement that meets your expectations.
Then, once things have settled with someone who gives you the allowance you want and it looks like the arrangement will continue, you could try negotiating with your existing papa.
That way, even if he refuses and you end up parting ways, you won’t be left in a difficult situation.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
You mentioned that a papa you knew in the past once transferred you some money when you told him you were short on tuition. Rather than asking for a higher allowance, you might have better luck asking him for occasional help with something specific.
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