The papa I see regularly said, “So you’re not a 10-something ◯◯ anymore, huh?” I laughed and replied, “That’s awful!” but I was actually pretty angry inside. I never expected a present or anything from him, but I did want him to simply say happy birthday.
He’s also made little comments before that quietly hurt me, like saying I have a childlike body or no sense of fashion. I always laughed them off, but would it be a bad idea to tell him that comments like that actually hurt me, so I’d rather he not say them?
Right now, apart from this papa, there’s only one other person I see regularly. The others are people I see about once a month on an irregular basis, and things could end with them at any time... So I don’t want this arrangement to end before I find another papa.
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For this one, try acting a little.
But I think it would be better if you actually cried in front of him.
Cry and tell him that comments like that genuinely hurt you, so you’d like him not to say things like that.
He probably says those things because he likes you, but I don’t think he realizes that he’s hurting you.
I feel like he may not truly understand until he sees you cry.
Do your best to cry, and then tell him how you feel.
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When your feelings start to feel hurt and dried up, staying silent will only make the wound worse, so I think it’s better to communicate how you feel properly.
Sometimes, they may think they’re simply showing affection with an offhand comment…
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It depends on whether you can tolerate it. Only you know where that line is.
If it’s still bearable, I’d suggest not saying anything as long as you don’t want her to cut things off.
Wait until you’re at a point where you’re okay with ending it, then say it.
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