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Jan 6, 2022 22:31
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m columnist Fuu（笑）
I can understand how you feel to some extent, but this isn’t a sex-work establishment, so the club can’t train the women. We simply introduce you to them.
If you’re looking for someone who’s a professional at hospitality and intimacy, and you expect perfection, a high-end soapland or luxury escort service might suit you better.
The women at these clubs are a real mix—good ones, difficult ones, and ordinary ones（笑）. You need to have enough leeway to enjoy the process of meeting people. Men also grow through the experience, even if it means stepping on plenty of landmines.
As I’ve written in my columns, I currently have a monthly arrangement with someone who’s amazing at both conversation and intimacy. But when we first met, she was completely passive in bed. We met here when she was 19, and over the five years since then, gradually—until she turned 24—she changed little by little. She started enjoying herself more and more, and now she can even reach the finish in Fuu’s favorite position. That kind of thing can happen too, and that’s one of the fun parts of this site.
Here, you’re lucky if you meet a great girl right from the start. But things don’t usually work out that easily. There’s also the possibility that, by building trust and continuing to see an ordinary girl, the relationship will gradually become better and better.
I hope you can enjoy the relationship too, but…
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🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
I totally get how you feel.
I guess what I’m looking for is that kind of trust where both people are willing to put themselves out there and be a little vulnerable for each other.
If I make an effort to share a self-deprecating joke, she’ll return the favor with one of her own.
I’d like a girl with that kind of mindset.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If they introduced a “full refund if you’re not satisfied!” policy, the offer fee would probably go up to cover it.
And then the person asking this question would probably get angry and say, “The offer fee is way too high!”
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Haha（笑）
That’s a good question（笑）
Well, I suppose you could just consider it a necessary expense...
She probably feels like she put up with a boring conversation, too（笑）
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
> Even when I bring up a topic, the conversation doesn’t go anywhere.
I don’t think an uninteresting topic will go anywhere, no matter how much you try to bring it up.
What kind of topics do you talk about?
What kind of topics actually lead to a deeper conversation?
At dating clubs, just as in ordinary dating, those conversational skills can make a difference.
If you’re not confident in that area, I think you’d have more fun going to a sex-work establishment.
They’ll probably listen enthusiastically to pretty much anything you say, and the women will be considerate so that you won’t be left dissatisfied with the intimate part, either.
You should think carefully about what kind of place is right for you.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Questioner, it sounds like a dating club may not be for you.
But I guess there really are men who ask for a refund of the setting fee...
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
If you had sex and then demanded a refund, people would only see you as a complainer.
Your conversation simply wasn’t interesting to her.
If that was the case, you should have just ended the meeting without having sex.
But then you’d say the setting fee would have gone to waste, right?