When I’m in an adult relationship (intimate), it hurts if we’re incompatible or he’s rough, so I usually pretend I’m about to climax and sweetly ask, “I want us to climax together,” so he’ll finish sooner.
But some papas actually get more aggressive when I pretend to climax, so it ends up having the opposite effect...
In situations like that, I’m not sure whether I should be honest about how I feel.
The other day, I had an adult relationship (intimate) with a papa for the first time, and he thrust so roughly several times that it was extremely painful.
When I pretended to climax, he became even more aggressive.
On top of that, afterward he asked to take nude photos of me. I couldn’t firmly refuse, and ended up letting him take them.
I’m still inexperienced with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and I thought maybe this was just how things were. I was scared too, so I ended up doing whatever he said.
I keep telling myself that it can’t be helped because I’m being paid, but I’ve started feeling sad and wondering, “Do I really need to put up with this much for 50,000 yen?”
Should I be more vocal about my own feelings?
Or does everyone continue doing this while putting up with things like that?
Or was he simply an especially awful papa?
I’m really troubled. I’d appreciate any advice.
I think it’s fine to be completely upfront with him.
When you’re compatible, you can say what you want to say, and…
That said, I feel like being physically compatible as well is probably why it seems like you can say anything and he’ll accept it all.
Unfortunately, in your case, you and your partner seem to be almost completely incompatible, so honestly, I think it would be best not to continue.
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I’m in Seattle.
Photos usually cost extra if you haven’t established a relationship yet.
Going at it hard and fast just means you’re inexperienced. Basically, it’s about repeating a steady rhythm.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
So a man you didn’t like made you an offer.
You should tell him clearly when you don’t like something. Don’t let him take photos of your face. If it hurts, be sure to tell him plainly that it hurts. He’s too clueless to notice on his own.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If you say things like “I’m about to finish” because you want it to end quickly, doesn’t that make it happen?
When a woman says she’s about to finish, it’s only natural for a man to get excited and try to help her finish.
By the way, if you’re only not showing your face, I feel like the photos might be something you can put up with. (I believe that’s a ¥1,000 option at adult entertainment establishments…)
Earning ¥50,000 is no easy task.
But in the end, whether you have a difficult time or not depends on the man.
If you’re getting offers from other men, I think the best approach is to date multiple men and choose the ones who treat you well.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I think it’s better to speak up about your opinions and requests, and I don’t believe everyone is simply putting up with things. I don’t interact with other male members, but once again, I think this shows that there are men like that out there.
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