I usually use high-end delivery escort services costing around ¥50,000–¥150,000 per visit (four or five times a month), but I’m wondering whether an elite dating club might be a good alternative if the cost is about the same.

With a dating club, you’ll probably quickly spend around ten times what you currently spend on adult entertainment. Actually, before you know it, you might even spend twenty or thirty times as much. There’s no real upper limit—you can get completely hooked. Of course, that depends on whether it suits you and is a good fit for you. It’s less about having a set budget and more about how deeply you become attached to a particular woman. —Paper Airplane As for comparing it with a luxury escort service: In my case, I always went to adult entertainment venues as places to meet women. Even on the very first day, I sometimes went on an out-of-venue date with a woman after her shift, and with women I liked, I would arrange one soon afterward. The same was true with women from luxury escort services. I sometimes became so deeply involved that I ended up falling into a bottomless pit, which was a mistake I experienced firsthand. There are also a few women with whom I’ve maintained relationships over the long term. Even among women working in adult entertainment or luxury escort services, some really aren’t suited to continuing that kind of work. There are women who keep things strictly transactional, complete professionals, and many others who may look similar at first glance but are actually quite different. The same is true of dating clubs: there are all kinds of women. In terms of looks, women at dating clubs are generally comparable to the top 30% or so of women in adult entertainment. So in that respect, they’re about on par with luxury escort services—or perhaps even better, since clubs let you choose someone who matches your preferences from clear photos. That may lead to a higher level of satisfaction. Luxury escort services may be enjoyable for a while, but as you move from luxury escort services to esthetic-style adult services, then men’s esthetics, and finally dating clubs, it’s only natural that the women will generally be more attractive and have better careers as the burden placed on them decreases. Men also shift from simply receiving services to providing service and hospitality themselves. Whether that suits you and whether you’re cut out for it are the key points. Simply put, if you’re going to adult entertainment venues four or five times a month, it gives the impression that you don’t have a girlfriend, so you may not necessarily be suited to dating clubs.

I’m NANA AYASE ♡ I’m a pro in the adult-entertainment world, but a newbie when it comes to dating clubs. Do you think I’m good at acting, bad at acting, or just a “tuna” (-' 鮪)з?

I’m Kazu, a male member. I’ve used high-end delivery services before, but I ultimately settled on dating clubs. Which one is better really depends on what you’re looking for. When I used sex services, I never tried to get close to the women or arrange to meet them outside the shop. I also never tried to have intercourse with a delivery-service provider. Personally, I prefer oral sex to penetration. So I never tried to build a personal relationship with them. A few women I repeatedly booked gave me their LINE accounts for business purposes, but my relationship with them was simply that I only needed them during the service time. In other words, through sex services, I’ve only met women in their capacity as sex-service providers. In return, they make a genuine effort to ensure I reach orgasm during the allotted time. I see sex services as something where you pay for sexual services. I use dating clubs to meet women who aren’t sex workers but are willing to have sex within a relationship. I’m not paying to buy sexual services; I use them to pursue a relationship with a woman that includes an allowance. At a dating club, you don’t necessarily get the experience of being brought to orgasm and then leaving immediately. In fact, it’s quite common for things to be cut short because I’m taking too long to finish. Sometimes we get caught up talking and time passes without having sex, or a woman starts crying while telling me her troubles, and we part ways without doing anything that day. Also, with sex services, I take a completely passive approach and have the provider bring me to orgasm. With dating-club partners, I enjoy bringing the woman to orgasm. If my partner doesn’t climax, I don’t climax either. A dating club is a matching service for meeting women interested in relationships that include an allowance. The term “matching service” might make it sound as though they match you automatically, but basically, the “matching” is self-service. You could use a dating club as a kind of amateur sex service, but unless you specifically insist on being with someone who absolutely isn’t a professional, I think a high-end delivery service will give you more satisfaction if what you want is sex work. I’ve written a lot, but you probably won’t really understand the difference just by hearing about it. So I suggest registering at around the Platinum level and making an actual offer, thinking of it as using a ¥150,000 high-end delivery service twice. If you enjoy it, you can continue using the dating club. If not, you can always go back to the high-end delivery service. P.S. I forgot to mention something important. With a high-end delivery service, it’s probably fair to say that having a service refused is virtually unheard of. But a dating club is, after all, about having a relationship with a woman. If she doesn’t like you, or if your allowance doesn’t meet her expectations, she may very well refuse an adult relationship (intimate).

I’m Aya, a female member. People who approach this with an adult-entertainment mindset—“I can get with a young girl for ¥XX!”—aren’t really welcome. If he’s been with a huge number of women and has had lots of encounters with sex workers in the past, I’d naturally be concerned about health risks too. For starters, the offer fee alone costs tens of thousands of yen, and the first dinner will cost at least ¥10,000–20,000 for the two of you. Plus, many of the women are amateurs, so you can’t expect the level of service or hospitality you’d get from a high-end delivery service. And if she turns him down after that, I can imagine him saying, “That was a terrible deal.” Yeah, I don’t think this is for you.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. Step 1: You can spend time with women privately. Step 2: You can meet an escort outside the establishment. Step 3: You join a dating club. It may look like progress, but it’s actually regression—and I think this is the usual order people go through. However, once you get into dating clubs, your cost calculations go completely haywire.

Maezawa from the president’s office will answer as well. I believe I’ve written this many times before, but escort services and dating clubs serve different purposes. If you’re thinking of using a dating club as a substitute for an escort service, I’d advise against it. Escort services have their own merits, and dating clubs have theirs. If you approach it with the mindset of using it like an escort service, I think both you and the women you meet will end up unhappy.