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Dec 12, 2021 20:21
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I often see male members saying that after their wives had children, they became more like family and their relationship turned sexless. But they’re happy with their home life and satisfied just being together, even without sex.
Is it simply that their children are currently at an age that requires a lot of care, so they don’t get in the mood—and once the children are older, they’ll return to having sex with their wives and no longer need Universe?
One member said that his child is still very young, so the whole family sleeps in the same bedroom. Their relationship is sexless, but if his wife initiated, he thinks he would have sex with her. His wife started seeing him as the children’s father, and even began calling him “Dad,” so they no longer have the kind of relationship where she calls him by his nickname like she did when they were dating.
But apparently, he still calls his wife by her nickname when the children aren’t around, and uses it for her on LINE as well.
Doesn’t this really mean that he still loves his wife and wants to have sex with her, but since she doesn’t have the time or energy for it, he’s simply finding someone through Universe to satisfy his sexual needs?
Someday, I’d love to meet someone and marry a person who says, “I’m happy just having you by my side. I don’t need sex or anything like that.” 😭
6 answers
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
Men like that may exist occasionally, but in most cases, once a relationship becomes sexless, it rarely goes back to the way it was.
In my case, it was once a year before I got divorced.
I understand wanting to get married at least once, but it’s really not all it’s cracked up to be. Life is definitely more fun when you’re single.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> Deep down, you really love your wife and want to have sex with her, but since she doesn’t have the time or energy for that, you’re simply using Universe to find someone to satisfy your sexual needs, right?
Considering this man’s overall situation based on the wording, I think that possibility is quite high.
🏅 手コキ評論家
入会して8年。いまだ彷徨中です
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Joe.
I didn’t join three years ago because my wife and I were sexless. Since then, it’s gone from twice a month to once a month, but we still have an ongoing intimate relationship. If someone asks, “Then why did you join?” I can’t really explain it well, so I usually brush it off by saying, “Well, I’m kind of a fighter.”
綾瀬なな
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Other
This is Nana Ayase♡
A wife is family—and a roommate.
Could you be intimate with your roommate?
A dating club is different. You’re paying, but you can still be lovey-dovey, right?
あや
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Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
There are all kinds of men, but I feel like many of them see their wife and the women they meet through the club as two completely separate things.
Even if they say they’re no longer intimate with their wife, there’s no way to know whether that’s really true. On the other hand, some couples may seem perfectly happy but actually have a very troubled relationship.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
It depends on the person.