I feel like childless male members in their 50s and 60s have the worst personalities.
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There was a question before saying that men in their 60s had the worst personalities, but it seems this woman has never met any childless members.
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I’m a woman in my 30s.
Including my experience with other dating clubs and as a hostess, I’ve met more than 10,000 men so far. Overall, I feel that childless men in their late 50s to 60s are the most dismissive of women and have the worst personalities.
By “being dismissive of women,” I mean that they seem to force the belief that a woman’s youth and looks are what matter most; that she should figure out her rank as early as possible, get married to someone appropriate, have children, and live modestly.
Many of the so-called “unpopular older men” also seem to be childless for some reason. They make rude comments or behave disrespectfully toward women, are poor at taking the lead and bad at making arrangements, and have no qualms about making others uncomfortable with their lack of cleanliness, bad breath, or appearance.
I feel that many men in these age groups have never experienced raising children with a wife, yet have incredibly high pride despite modest incomes, or are stingy and make their wives put up with them for years.
Of course, I understand that there can be various reasons why someone is childless.
Why are there so many men in their 50s and 60s who have bad personalities, lack compassion, and are unable to make women happy??
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
The answer is that it depends on the person, regardless of age or other factors.
Making baseless generalizations like “people in their ___s are like that” only makes those who fit the description feel uncomfortable, doesn’t it?
For example, do you think unmarried women in their 30s who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) have bad personalities? Why? (lol)
If someone said that to you, what would you say?
Wouldn’t you think, “That particular person just happens to have a bad personality—I’m not like that”? (lol)
My monthly-arrangement partner is an unmarried woman in her 30s, and I certainly don’t think she has a bad personality...
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I’m in my 60s too, and although I think raising children as a married couple is a little different, I feel that the social environment we grew up in—and the changes that came afterward—may have had an impact on us.
When we were young, Japan was in the midst of rapid economic growth. Men were expected to devote themselves entirely to work and put their jobs first, while their wives handled everything related to the household.
Since the collapse of the bubble economy, women’s increasing participation in the workforce and issues such as sexual harassment have received more attention. Against that social backdrop, I think men’s attitudes toward women have also changed.
These days, people talk about “herbivore men,” but to me, they seem somewhat lacking as men.
I wasn’t blessed with much experience with girls, so I admit I’m rather awkward when it comes to relationships with women I’m dating. It may just be my personality, but these days I find myself carrying on while being told, “Create some mood! Mood!” from time to time.（笑）
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
You’re free to have that feeling, but asking a question while assuming your “feeling” must be correct is foolish.
It doesn’t apply to me at all, so it’s none of my business, but the way you’re imposing your “feeling” on everyone else is annoying.
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This is Joe.
Of course, you’re entitled to feel that way. And you claim this is based on observing 10,000 men. I don’t mean to be rude, but Joe didn’t find that very convincing.
At least from a hostess’s perspective, isn’t it possible that customers with unpleasant personalities can actually become cash cows?
They say it takes 10,000 hours for someone to become reasonably competent at something. Even if we assume 10,000 men × two hours each, that would be 20,000 hours of observation. So Joe’s honest reaction is, “Hmm… what exactly were you observing?”
It’s completely unclear how—or whether—the questioner put that insight to use.
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If men had been able to make women happy with more thoughtfulness, perhaps the opposite would be true—and more women would have children.
Once you have a child, you come to realize, many times over—even hundreds of times over—just how incredible women are, even though they were already amazing to begin with. I have nothing but respect for them. In fact, it goes beyond respect; I feel that women’s very existence has supported humanity. It almost makes you wonder whether men are even necessary at all…
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