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Dec 5, 2021 19:46
7 answers
綾瀬なな
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Other
This is Ayase Nana☆
Why didn’t you negotiate the allowance before going to the hotel? This is something that’s been answered many times in the Q&A box.
You already have another date planned, right? I’m sure you won’t get any allowance next time either.
🏅 パパ活歴8年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
That’s not okay. Before agreeing to an adult relationship (intimate), you need to clearly agree in advance on the allowance—including transportation costs.
If you don’t ask for an allowance, your papa (a male supporter) will assume that covering your bullet-train fare is enough to continue seeing you.
If you feel you can’t continue without an allowance, make sure to ask for one before you meet again.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
There are some men who, if you become intimate without first clearly discussing the allowance, assume they can date you for free. They’re really not suitable for a dating club.
So before becoming intimate, always confirm how much allowance you’ll receive.
In this case, the issue is what to do about your next meeting. If you’ve already set a date for it, contact him right away via LINE or another app and say something like:
“I missed out on receiving my allowance last time, but I’m hoping for ¥50,000. Would it be possible to receive ¥100,000 next time, including the amount from our previous meeting?”
Use whatever amount you’re hoping for.
If he replies, “I forgot about the previous allowance, so I’ll pay it,” then he probably really did just forget.
However, if he’s reluctant, I think you should end the arrangement—and unfortunately, you should probably give up on receiving the previous allowance as well.
If that happens, simply letting it go may feel frustrating, so write about it in your post-date feedback:
“I was told that dating through this club involved compensation, but I received nothing. We had an adult relationship (intimate), yet I wasn’t given any allowance.”
You should also give him the lowest rating and allow the club to contact him for confirmation.
That way, the staff will recognize him as someone who doesn’t provide allowance, and if he repeats this behavior, he’ll be forcibly removed from the club.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
So you ended up having an adult relationship without discussing the allowance.
If you want an allowance, I don’t think this can become a mutually enjoyable relationship, so it’s probably best to part ways.
Either way, you should give the club feedback about this.
I think that man is a repeat offender who does the same thing to other women as well.
茉莉花
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Other
People like that will probably only pay reluctantly, even if they agree to give you an allowance, so you’re better off avoiding them.
Marika
あかり
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Other
Whether he deliberately “forgot,” or simply counted the bullet train fare as part of your allowance, either way, you should make sure you receive the full amount.
Before agreeing to see him again, ask whether he can make up the unpaid allowance from last time.
If he refuses, he’s not worth pursuing.
Akari
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
In that situation, I think the only option is for you to bring up the allowance yourself.