A question about what an adult relationship means

I’m Dai, a male member. Conversely, don’t you think an adult relationship (intimate) that doesn’t include penetration is unnatural in the context of a free romantic relationship? Those unnatural acts are what other adult entertainment services—aside from soaplands—provide. (The premise with soaplands is that they involve free romantic relationships.) I think the questioner would be better off going to one of those establishments. That said, since it’s ultimately a free romantic relationship, there may be cases such as a man with ED who can’t get an erection but wants to see a woman in a sexually disheveled state, and therefore wants to engage in adult play without penetration.

I’m Taro, a male member. To me, an adult relationship means inserting the male member’s prized “love rod” all the way into your most private place, moving it in and out at various angles, then releasing the cloudy fluid filled with male desire into a condom that was put on beforehand. Afterward, you cuddle and touch each other while making ridiculously silly lovey-dovey conversation, get ready when the love hotel calls to remind you that your time is up, and finally part with a smile. Then the woman sends a nice thank-you message on the train ride home, and the man replies in a way that shows he enjoyed it too. Sorry I couldn’t live up to your expectations. But if you’re drowning, grabbing at a straw won’t save you—so I suppose this was the inevitable result. As Mr. Maezawa wrote, you should register as Type A. Then, if you tell a man you like, “I think I could manage showing you my naked body and letting you touch me,” he’ll probably get incredibly excited. Once things have progressed that far, avoiding crossing the final line will take some extra effort. Some men will accept that, though, so I think the important thing is figuring out which ones will. I’ve been in that situation myself, and I believe there are a certain number of men like that. Just do your best within your own limits.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. I think what you have in mind by an adult relationship (intimate) is fine, but— For example, if a man says, “I’ll give you an allowance of 50,000 yen if we have an adult relationship,” that generally means going as far as intercourse. In that sense, when “adult relationship” comes up in conversation, it seems to be understood as including intercourse. That said, the meaning of the term is often vague. If a woman says, “I’m okay with an adult relationship, but I’d prefer not to go as far as intercourse. How much would the allowance be in that case?” I don’t think many men would respond, “Then that isn’t an adult relationship.” If both people are getting naked, I suppose it may reasonably be described as an adult relationship. So while I think an adult relationship can technically include things short of intercourse, when the term is used in conversation, it’s probably best to assume it means going that far, to avoid misunderstandings. As for wanting an allowance in exchange for “showing your body or allowing some touching,” I think it’s best to tell him that directly. Some men may be fine with that, while others may decide not to proceed. The best approach would be something like: “I’d prefer dinner only, but if the allowance is higher, I’d be okay with some touching.” In other words, you’re saying that you originally only wanted dinner, but would make a special exception for touching only. I feel that more men might be willing to accept that.

I’m Nana Ayase☆ Questioner… are you in elementary school? Once you show your body, things won’t stop there—you’ll almost certainly end up going as far as penetration. Or are you talking about nude photos? I wouldn’t really call that an adult relationship (intimate). What do you mean by “body contact”? Holding hands? I don’t think giving someone a little pat on the butt counts as an adult relationship (intimate), either. If that’s what you’re worried about, you won’t be able to work through a club, will you? You’d be causing trouble for the men, too.