What causes a guy to lose his erection while putting on a condom? And how can it be prevented?

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. I have a feeling the issue may be on the questioner’s side. Maybe it’s taking something like: 10 seconds to look for where you put the condom, 5 seconds to open the wrapper, 10 seconds to take it out and check which way is up, and another 10 seconds to put it on. Oh, wait. You said, “While he’s putting it on, I pretend to adjust the pillows.” So the man is putting it on himself. In that case, say, “Let me put it on for you,” and first bring the condom within reach. Then start with oral sex, and once you feel he’s ready, put the condom on quickly—in about a second. That way, he probably won’t lose his erection. If you fumble around afterward, he might go soft, so it’s best to move on to penetration before that happens. People who generally dislike condoms are usually used to having sex without them, so once their brain registers that a condom is on, they may lose their erection. The trick is to get to penetration before they consciously register it. Also, the type of condom matters. Unless you use an ultra-thin one, like a 0.01 mm or 0.02 mm condom, he may still think, “It doesn’t feel quite right because there’s a condom,” even after penetration, and gradually lose his erection. So I think choosing the right type of condom is important too.

I’m columnist Fuu. I think the issue isn’t with you—the papa may be experiencing mild ED (erectile dysfunction). Depending on your personality, here are a few things you could try while he’s putting on a condom: ・Verbal teasing Try saying things that might turn him on, such as: “I want you inside me soon.” “I can’t hold back anymore.” ・Touch Gently stroke his waist or shoulders, or give him a back hug. ・Visual teasing Get on all fours and say, “I want you from behind.” Or spread your legs in an M position and say, “I can’t wait any longer.” If he still doesn’t get fully hard, try tactfully suggesting that he take ED medication. My monthly partner is very good at this. Maybe he just wants to finish the intimate part quickly（笑）. Still, he strokes me while saying things like: “I’m so wet—I want you inside me.” “I can’t wait any longer.” When he focuses on oral, even if he starts to lose his erection, he gets hard again right away.

I’m Nana Ayase ♡ I think it may be because I lose arousal when I focus on other things. A lot of men want to do it without a condom, so perhaps I’m putting one on while thinking, “I have to make sure he wears it,” rather than staying in the moment.

You’d probably have to be so aroused that you’re having an intense, full-body orgasm, while the man can’t wait to enter and you can’t hold back either—so much so that there’s no time for things like oral. If you’re making a reverse offer, I’d be happy to hear from you. This is Paper Airplane.

I’m Taro, a male member. Maybe it’s because they take longer to put on. With ultra-thin ones like 0.01 mm, the condom sometimes sticks to itself and gets caught, making it impossible to put on. SKYN condoms are a little thicker, so they’re easier to use. They feel good too, so if the hassle of putting them on bothers you, it might be worth switching. If he can’t stay hard without constant stimulation, maybe have him take some medication. If he still can’t get hard after that, I’d say you’re simply not compatible. If he’s willing to meet and pay, you could keep seeing him, but personally, I think you’d be better off moving on.