I’m a woman, but I’m not quick-witted and I have a strong personality.
As a result, I come across as tense, and even though I’m the one receiving money, I end up trying to push my own opinions.
I’m also not good at livening things up.
When I look at papa-katsu accounts on Twitter, I see women making tens of thousands of yen just from dinner-only dates.
Hostesses at cabaret clubs also make a lot of money by making their companions feel good through conversation.
After reading many of the anonymous questions here, I’ve seen male members comment that relationships based only on physical intimacy eventually become boring.
To avoid that happening, I’d like to improve my conversation skills as well.
How can I learn conversation techniques that will entertain men?
Ideally, I’d like to enjoy the relationship too, but…
Well, the best papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is one that doesn’t feel like a burden.
There are men who are compatible with you in terms of chemistry, vibe, and conversation.
Don’t push yourself.
And from a man’s perspective, what matters more is whether the woman is having fun, enjoying herself, feeling it, and being natural.
—Paper Airplane
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I’m Osaka, one of the male members.
In situations like that, rather than trying too hard to keep the conversation going, why not start by changing your mindset?
The key is to convey, “I’m having fun!” to the other person. Even something as simple as a response like “Yeah,” “Oh, really?” “Huh?” or “I know what you mean!” can do that.
“Yeah, yeah” (And then? What happened next?)
“Oh, really?” (That’s amazing! How wonderful♡)
“Huh?” (Wow, that’s surprising!)
“I know what you mean!” (I feel exactly the same way♡)
Even without saying the words in parentheses, you can convey them through your tone of voice, facial expressions, and attitude.
If that comes across as “I’m having fun being with you,” the other person will also enjoy talking with you. I think the questioner would be able to do this naturally with someone who responds that way too, lol.
When the other person seems to be enjoying themselves, you naturally start having fun as well, so I think you’ll gradually learn how to switch into that mode.
I’ve never particularly felt that hostesses are exceptionally skilled, but they clearly switch into work mode with the goal of entertaining the other person. That difference in mindset may be the key.
The techniques can come afterward.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
You’re not attending a group date or a drinking party with your papa (a male supporter), so you don’t need to force yourself to keep things lively.
For starters, try focusing on listening to what your papa has to say and asking questions about anything you’re curious about. If something makes you wonder, it’s fine to ask directly. If you make an effort to be sincere and straightforward, I don’t think you’ll be disliked.
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