How do you teach someone to give a blowjob? Don’t you teach them? Would the safest way be to have them suck your fingers to show them…?

I’ll answer this as Maezawa from the CEO’s office. How would you feel if someone asked you: “How can I get a man’s finger skills up to Gold Finger level? Should I have him put his fingers in a Tenga and teach him?” Maybe men wouldn’t think much of it, but if you consider how someone could learn to improve their finger skills, you might start to see the answer. That said, I don’t think it’s something you teach someone. It seems more like something a woman develops herself, of her own accord.

Being made to put my finger in someone’s mouth makes me feel really uncomfortable. But seeing a man let his guard down and look or sound like he’s genuinely enjoying himself makes me happy. Akari

I’m Kazu, a male member. I don’t teach them. Women who are good at it can skillfully find a man’s erogenous zones, and they ask what he likes. If I’m not satisfied, or if spending time together outside the bedroom isn’t particularly enjoyable either, I simply don’t see them again. I felt like adding a little more. There’s actually no single blowjob technique that works well for everyone. So just putting something in your mouth and licking it won’t necessarily make you better at it. I learned this from asking several sex workers I’d become friendly with: a good blowjob means correctly providing the kind of stimulation that partner enjoys. If a sex worker can’t bring her client to orgasm, she has to continue for a long time, which is exhausting, and she may not get repeat bookings. So those who want to increase their income hone their skills. Honing their skills doesn’t mean using some incredible licking technique. It means learning how to quickly figure out a man’s erogenous zones and the kinds of stimulation he responds to. That’s why, if you want to teach someone how to give you a good blowjob, I think the approach mentioned in Mac’s answer—reacting enthusiastically and complimenting her—is the right one. Women who are naturally good at it watch their partner’s reactions and adjust what they’re doing because they want to please him. That’s why I like women who are good at blowjobs. Of course, sometimes her usual technique just happens to match your personal preferences. I think this applies not only to blowjobs but to sex techniques in general. So I feel that sex-technique lessons and courses are only useful for introducing you to types of stimulation you hadn’t thought of yourself. As an aside, whether a woman with a tongue piercing gives better blowjobs also seems to depend on the man. I like having my frenulum stimulated with a tongue piercing, but several women with tongue piercings have told me that some men dislike it. Once again, there’s no blowjob that’s good for everyone. One more aside: just because someone is a porn actress doesn’t necessarily mean she’s good at sex. They’re actresses, and they’re simply good at making sex look good on camera.

Does the questioner even know how to give a good blowjob in the first place? If not, I think you should ask a gay guy to teach you. Apparently, gay men are really amazing at it. Even straight guys like us can supposedly be brought to our knees in seconds—or so they say. I’ll ask the next blowjob goddess I meet how she learned. Though I’m not a columnist, so it’s not like I’ll have anywhere to share what I find out (lol). —A loser of a man