What do men do when they’re trying to show off or want to look impressive?
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For example, taking someone to an expensive restaurant, giving them gifts, or paying extra attention to their clothes and belongings… I’d love to hear some ideas I wouldn’t have thought of myself.
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
I agree with Flagmaker’s opinion.
I think showing off can have various intentions depending on how it comes across.
Although I imagine it’s often taken negatively, as it was by the person asking the question, I think it’s wonderful when two people can recognize even the subtle ways they try to impress each other.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I live within my means and don’t really try to show off.
As Flag Maker said, I also make a conscious effort not to send follow-up messages.
It’s not so much about showing off—it’s more that I grit my teeth and hold back to come across as gentlemanly, haha.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Isn’t that usually when people talk about money?
For example, what kind of work they’ve taken on, how much revenue their business generated, or what their annual income is, and so on.
That said, some of it may be true, so I think it’s important to verify the information.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
“貼る” instead of “張る” for “putting on airs”—great typo. They say typos are gifts from God, and this one really is. Now, where would you stick it? Right between the eyebrows, obviously. You’d want to slap one of those paper talismans on there with a loud smack—for someone showing off at a high-end restaurant, lol.
In the end, you put on airs because you want to win the other person over, right? I’ve had plenty of experience with that through work. Basically, everything from meeting someone to saying goodbye is carefully staged. I research them as thoroughly as a stalker and fit everything perfectly into place. Sometimes I’ll bring up things I already know while pretending it’s a coincidence, or rehearse while checking how I look from the seat they’ll be sitting in. It’s the kind of setup you see in movies. Except it’s real. Most people aren’t on guard against that sort of thing, so if you plan meticulously, it can actually be surprisingly easy.
That said, I’ve never used it on women. It feels a bit too over-the-top, and I think it’s better when a relationship deepens through natural interaction. There’s also the question of whether I could maintain romantic feelings after deciding someone was merely a target. Still, I suppose it would be a kind of happiness to meet a woman I wanted badly enough to go that far for.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
My papa (a male supporter) sometimes spends ● million yen in a single night out drinking, but to me, it just looks like he’s showing off.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Let’s look at it from a different angle.
I want to reach out, but I don’t.
I’m worried because I haven’t heard back, but I don’t send a follow-up message.
I like them, but I don’t say I like them.
I want to see them more often, but I don’t say so.
To me, that’s what it means to “put on airs.” You could also say I’m needlessly trying to look cool and forcing myself to hold back.
But sometimes, that’s also a setup—a flag—for the moment when it really matters.
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