She’s always cheerful and full of energy, so when we met the other day, I casually said, “You’re always so bright and wonderful, but don’t you ever have any problems? If there’s anything bothering you, I’m happy to listen.”
For a moment, her expression darkened, and she said in a low voice, “If I opened up about my problems to my papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) partner, I’d only be putting you in an awkward position, right?”
She quickly changed the subject and went back to her usual cheerful self, but…
Do you think a girl who responds like that might be dealing with something so serious that she can’t talk about it with anyone? My impression of her as a bright and positive person has changed a little…
I’m a male member, Dai.
Even if you’ve been seeing someone for six months, you’ve probably only actually met around 20–30 days in total.
It would be different if you had rented an apartment and were seeing each other almost every day, but…
With a relationship like that, I think it’s proper etiquette not to pry too deeply into each other’s private lives.
Try to understand that women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) maintain a boundary with their male supporters and interact with them in a professional mode.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
He’s a textbook case of someone who doesn’t get it. If someone says, “I’m here if you ever need to talk,” you’re not exactly going to respond, “Well, actually…” are you?
If I were in her shoes, I’d feel uncomfortable being told by a stranger that I must have something to worry about.
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You’re not going to show your true self to someone you’re seeing for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), are you?
That’s probably what she means.
He’s just her papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) partner, after all.
I think that’s the point.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
When she responds to, “You’re always so cheerful and lovely, but don’t you have any worries? I’m here if you ever want to talk,” with, “If I opened up about my problems to someone I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with, I’d only be burdening you,” what she really means is probably, “My problems would be solved if I had enough money, so please give me more money.” Unfortunately, it seems she hasn’t opened up to you very much.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
It’s like drawing a line and saying, “Don’t cross it.” Or maybe it’s that irritated feeling of, “No, I’m already pushing myself too hard as it is.”
It feels similar to being subjected to an earful from an angry customer, only to have them follow it up with, “It’s not like this is your fault,” or, “Your job must be tough, too.”
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t know whether your concern is all that serious, but you seem like the type to draw a line in the relationship so you don’t cause the other person any trouble. Aren’t you a good person?
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