The papa I’ve been seeing for almost a year has gradually started showing worse table manners. I assume he was making an effort at first, but lately he doesn’t seem to care at all. He picks up food with his hands when it can’t be scooped up with a spoon, casually removes things stuck in his teeth while we’re eating, holds bowls by hooking his index finger around them, and he’s also a loud chewer. Honestly, I don’t feel comfortable being around him.

I’m Aya, a female member. There really are people with such terrible manners… I can see why you’d start to dislike him. Maybe choose a restaurant where his manners won’t bother you as much, and sit at the counter so you don’t have to face your papa (a male supporter) directly. If you reach your limit, I think it’s also okay to say something, even if you’re prepared for him to end things. For example, the moment he tries to eat with his hands, gently take his hand and say in a sweet, playful tone, “Hey, you’re not supposed to use your hands.”

I’m Dai, a male member. Once someone’s true nature starts to show, I don’t think you can get them to change. Why not go straight to a hotel without having dinner?