I’m a male member. About the post-date survey: we’re asked to rate the date compared with our expectations, but should I really answer exactly that way? I go into every date with very high expectations, so I struggle with this every time. Even if she’s a great woman, should I give her a positive rating if she didn’t exceed my expectations?

I’m Dai, a male member. If you think of it as something directly tied to evaluating the woman, the answer should come naturally. Just write honestly about how you felt during your date with her.

Maezawa from the president’s office here as well. When we talk about expectations, for example, with a Gold woman, it might be something like: “If she’s a Gold woman, it’s normal to expect about this much from her.” Or, when you choose someone from the list of women, you may form expectations based on what’s written in her profile, thinking: “I wonder if she’s the kind of person described here?” That’s the baseline expectation. But if you judge everyone against the world’s most perfect woman—the kind of woman you’re hoping for—then it’s obvious that every woman will end up with a negative evaluation. And if you think about who that negative evaluation benefits, you’ll realize that your standards may be the problem. I believe that’s precisely why you came here to ask this question. As for expectations: Normally, you’d think, “People don’t usually arrive late,” and then, when she doesn’t arrive late, you’d say, “She met my expectations.” Or perhaps: “She didn’t arrive late, and she even gave me a gift. I never expected that—she went above and beyond my expectations.” I’m not sure whether a gift is the best example, but I think it helps to look at things in that way.

I’m Papercraft, a male member. If writing it is going to make you hesitate, you don’t need to unless you feel it’s necessary.

I’m Kazu, a male member. After making several offers, you start to get a sense of what to expect from each class. That’s what I base my answers on—how someone compares with the average expectations for their class. Even if things don’t work out, it simply means they weren’t a match for me. I don’t think it’s fair to judge them against the unrealistically high expectations they came up with on their own. You wouldn’t want to be harshly criticized just because you weren’t a handsome, thirty-something ideal papa who would pay whatever allowance you asked for, would you?