Does being beautiful make you happy?
I’m the complete opposite of you all—I’m overweight, never wear skirts, and don’t even shape my eyebrows.
Of course, I’ve never had a boyfriend either.
But I want to become beautiful and change my life.
Does being beautiful really change your life?
Please be honest.
I’m columnist Shingo Lee (Shingori).
>>Of course, I’ve never had a boyfriend either.
>>But I want to become beautiful and change my life.
You’re overweight, yet you’re making a lot of noise. First, join a gym and lose weight. Watch what you eat, too.
If you wait for your feelings to change or for motivation to kick in before trying to lose weight or improve your appearance, you’ll never make much progress. Just sign up for a gym first, let your motivation catch up afterward, and learn how to exercise properly. Before knowledge or studying, what matters first is “taking action.” Taking action will change both your mindset and your appearance.
I was about 173 cm tall and weighed around 85 kg until roughly five years ago, but I signed up for a gym anyway. Then I studied how to diet while exercising, and lost 9 kg in three months and 12 kg in six months. After that, I became much more popular.
You should start by taking action, too. A whole different world is waiting for you.
Apparently, people who are extremely beautiful often end up unhappy, while girls who are around the second- to fifth-cutest in their grade tend to have higher levels of happiness.
That said, people who are less attractive apparently tend to earn less. These are all statistical findings, so take them for what they’re worth.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Rather than being beautiful, simply looking clean and well-groomed makes you likable. If your looks are reasonably decent, it mostly comes down to personal preference anyway.
So, to the person asking: just focus on losing weight first.
If you want to change your life through your appearance, I’d recommend trying an easy diet before resorting to plastic surgery or questionable cosmetics.
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I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
> Please be honest.
This is written in a way that feels familiar from something I’ve seen before...
If you changed it to be about a man, it would be something like:
To all male members,
Does having money make you happy?
Unlike all of you, I’m an obese man who doesn’t wear suits or even take care of his hair.
Of course, I’ve never had a girlfriend either.
But I want to become rich and change my life.
Will having money change my life?
Please be honest.
That’s the sort of thing it would sound like.
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I’m Ayase Nana☆
Being beautiful has its advantages—but whether it makes you happy is another question…
Even with a face like mine, company presidents squeeze my arms and pull me onto their laps. So I guess only Seattle-san knows what I look like?
I don’t think I’m particularly beautiful, but apparently my whole body is sexy. People glance at me as they pass by, even though I’m just wearing an ordinary suit. Strange people follow me, and I’ve even had stalkers. That isn’t happiness, is it?
Still, I think losing weight alone can change your life. Want me to help you lose weight? I’m pretty strict, though.
Becoming beautiful does cost money, but you don’t need a huge amount. And if you don’t lose weight soon, loose skin won’t go back to normal.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
If you don’t do anything, nothing will change.
From that perspective, becoming more beautiful and changing your current situation can be an effective approach.
If you want to become more beautiful and change your life, I think it’s best to start by working on your appearance and seeing what happens.
As you become more beautiful, your own mindset, the way members of the opposite sex look at you, and the environment around you will naturally begin to change.
> Does being beautiful make you happy?
As everyone has said, depending on how various circumstances change, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be happy.
It’s a difficult question, but if it were me, I would take a step forward in search of new opportunities rather than settling for my current situation.
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I do think being beautiful can change your life.
But if you ask whether being beautiful makes you happy, I wouldn’t necessarily say so.
I found the woman who died after taking drugs with ○尾学 to be incredibly beautiful—I was very drawn to her features. But in the end, I can’t help thinking that if she hadn’t been beautiful, things might not have ended that way.
Helter Skelter is another example. It’s complicated.
In the end, I suppose beauty can change your life, but there’s no guarantee it will change it for the better.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Sorry for answering as a man, but I’d like to share my thoughts.
Being attractive can make things easier in many ways. To give the kind of answer you’d expect from an anonymous Q&A box for a dating club, for example, if you’re beautiful, you’ll probably receive plenty of offers without much effort.
However, if you want to continue seeing a good man you met that way—in other words, if you want to receive a steady allowance without having sex with numerous men—qualities beyond beauty become important.
In short, beauty can give you opportunities, but I don’t believe beauty alone can bring happiness. Conversely, you can still find happiness without being beautiful.
Being overweight, wearing skirts, and grooming your eyebrows aren’t things determined at birth; they’re things you can change through effort. I believe fortune favors those who make the effort.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If you want to find a boyfriend, I think personality matters more than looks. An average appearance is perfectly fine.
For what it’s worth, I’m completely average-looking myself, but I’ve had a girlfriend and have even been married.
Being beautiful may change your life compared with not being beautiful, but whether that makes you happy is another question.
It’s the same as asking whether having money automatically makes you happy—not necessarily.
In any case, obesity isn’t good for your health, so that’s something you should work on.
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