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Aug 13, 2021 12:49
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Are you okay? (sweat)
That man sounds less into S&M and more like he was torturing you.
It’s a miracle you made it home without passing out.
Please tell the staff his name via LINE so no one else gets hurt.
If he doesn’t even know his own limits, he could end up killing you.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
I don’t think that’s something you should just accept as normal. Even with BDSM, the basic principle is that both people do what the other wants.
The moment you find yourself thinking, “Why are you doing this to me?”, it’s no longer play.
> On top of that, he took me out for drinks afterward when I was practically makeup-free because I only had the bare minimum of makeup with me, and my hair was a mess because I didn’t have any styling products.
That’s awful. You should have firmly told him, “I can’t go out drinking when I haven’t been able to do my makeup and hair properly.”
You should also have a proper discussion about what happens going forward. If you’re okay with him doing things suddenly, you could say something like:
“I can forgive it, but I need you to tell me beforehand because I’ll have to bring a lot of makeup and other things afterward.”
“When you haven’t told me in advance, I absolutely don’t want you to do anything like that.”
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
If they don’t ask, I either ask for an additional allowance or block them.
Other
No matter how much allowance you’re offered, this is not okay.
It would be perfectly reasonable to leave right then and there.
That said, you must have been scared too.
At the very least, don’t readily agree to go out for drinks—refuse.
Men like that will only escalate. You could be putting yourself in danger.
Akari
Other
Even if you agreed to the SM play itself, that doesn’t mean something like that should be considered acceptable as a matter of course.
And after that, you still went drinking together several times?
Is the part you’re angry about that he dragged you around even though your makeup had come off?
SM is supposed to be a refined pastime between gentlemen and ladies. It’s not something that gives some clueless old man who can barely communicate the right to do whatever he wants to a young woman who knows nothing about it.
I’ve never really spoken up about SM before, but this time it went too far, so I felt I had to say something.
If you don’t say anything, people may assume you’re okay with it—or even that you’re enjoying it.
If you don’t make your wishes clear, you could end up dead.
Marika
Meg
Female
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🏅 修行の身
光と影
Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member.
That’s definitely not something you should just accept as normal!
Why didn’t she get angry and leave right then and there?
And then being taken out for drinks afterward… I honestly don’t get it.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
No amount of money would make me accept having some strange older man grab me by the head and waterboard me. It goes against my dignity as a person.
That’s beyond unacceptable, and I think it’s perfectly fine to cut ties with that papa. Tell him, “What you did made me uncomfortable, so don’t ever do it again.” Otherwise, there may be more victims.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member, Dai.
Some BDSM activities can mess up your makeup and hairstyle.
But I’m surprised you went out for drinks with him looking almost makeup-free and with your hair all messy.
If you were upset, you should have left then and there.
Most men who are dominant in bed are considerate outside of play, but perhaps your papa (a male supporter) simply isn’t that thoughtful.
If you want to continue seeing him, bring at least a basic makeup kit and anything else you may need next time.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
That’s unbelievable…
It’s just too cruel…
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Trying to suffocate someone by holding their face underwater without saying anything isn’t BDSM—it’s assault.