I joined this year, and I’m going on my first date with a woman soon.
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I’m already nervous. Haha.
As for the plan, I’m thinking of having a kaiseki meal at a Japanese restaurant, then walking or taking a taxi to a nearby love hotel.
I have two questions for everyone. Is a love hotel an acceptable place for an adult relationship (intimate)?
Also, should I give her the allowance upfront?
Sorry for the basic questions, but I’d really appreciate your advice.
I’m Aya, a female member.
I don’t think there’s necessarily a problem with taking a taxi to a love hotel, but since the choice of hotel is up to the woman, it might be better to make sure a regular city hotel is also an option in advance. Some women may dislike love hotels because they feel too transactional. Best of luck.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
It depends on the love hotel.
I’ve used love hotels several times, and I think it’s fine as long as it’s not the kind commonly used for paid sex services.
I usually take a shower first, then while she’s in the shower, I leave the allowance somewhere easy for her to spot.
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It depends on the distance between the restaurant and the love hotel, as well as the atmosphere of the area.
Old, dirty, or cramped places are out of the question. Having to walk around to several hotels because they’re full—or wait around—is the worst.
Why not book a regular city hotel and, if she turns you down, have a little solo reflection session afterward?
Personally, I don’t mind love hotels. What I dislike most are the “clean and tidy business hotels” that seem to be everywhere lately, with paper-thin walls.
You could mention the allowance toward the end of the meal or just after leaving the restaurant. When handing it over, doing so in the room before anything else would probably make her feel more at ease.
As Maezawa-san suggested, waiting until you’re both naked is definitely out of the question.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’ve never gone to a love hotel with a woman I met through the club, so I can’t speak to that specifically. But if you’re comfortable handing over the allowance upfront, I recommend doing so. I give it to her as soon as we enter the hotel room.
Just that alone can make you a better man than roughly 80% of the other male members.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
> Is it okay to go to a love hotel for an adult relationship (intimate)?
About 80% of women are fine with a love hotel.
But don’t choose a cheap, dirty one.
I’d recommend finding a reasonably nice love hotel in advance—somewhere that costs over ¥10,000 for a short stay.
That said, about 20% of women may think, “A love hotel?” even if they don’t say so. So you could ask:
“Are you okay with a love hotel? If you’d rather not, I can look for a regular hotel now.”
Since 80% are fine with it, it’s probably okay to head straight to a love hotel. But asking just in case will also help you handle the situation if she happens to be among the other 20%.
Naturally, you should also prepare in advance by finding a hotel with available rooms before dinner and making sure you can book it right away. Since it’s currently during the COVID situation, you may still be able to find a room even if you look at the last minute, though.
> Should I give her the allowance upfront?
First, give her ¥5,000–¥10,000 during dinner. This is transportation money according to the club’s rules, separate from the allowance.
As for the allowance, I think the best time to give it is after you enter the room and you’re both undressed.
Few women will run away after getting undressed, so you can feel reassured, and she’ll also feel more comfortable receiving it before anything happens. That seems like the best timing.
Wanting to pay only afterward is just a man’s ego.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
I know first meetings can be nerve-racking.
It depends on what type of arrangement she’s looking for.
If she’s a Type C or D, ask something like, “I’d like to go to this hotel with you now—is that okay?”
Also, ask how much allowance she’s expecting before going to the hotel.
Once you’re in the room, put the allowance in an envelope and say, “Please check it,” right away. That will make her feel much more at ease. Fresh, crisp bills are even better.
Wishing you success!
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