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Aug 7, 2021 14:52
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Other
If it were me, I’d be thinking, “What do you mean, you wouldn’t sleep with me when I’m right here?!” lol
Jokes aside, as others have said, I’d probably assume he just wasn’t interested in me. That’s what I go into these dates expecting, after all.
It’s kinder when someone tells you upfront that the first date will be dinner only.
—Marika
Other
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
As a Type C, it’s perfectly fine if you only want to have dinner on the first meeting. When arranging it, please ask the staff to let him know that it will be dinner only that day.
After meeting, make sure to confirm the allowance amount and arrange your next meeting before you leave.
If there’s no adult relationship with a Type C, I feel like he probably wasn’t interested in me.
Even if he’s so sexy that you feel like you want to get intimate that very day, please be patient（笑）
I’m also a Type C because of my age, but if you say that, I’ll be happy to wait.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I’ve only met three women so far, but even with C-type women, an adult relationship usually starts from the second meeting onward. I just tell them, “The first meeting is dinner only...” sometime between making the offer and the date, and that’s been fine.
Women who come on too strong are kind of a “hmm” for me（笑).
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
Whether it’s rude not to ask for an adult relationship (intimate) from the very first meeting depends on the woman.
Even among Type C women, some develop into a relationship about half the time, while others do so nearly 100% of the time.
Women who almost always move on to an adult relationship are expecting an allowance for it, so if you don’t ask, they may feel disappointed and wonder whether they’re not attractive enough.
At the very least, I recommend discussing the allowance for an adult relationship and making plans to meet again.
That said, if she’s exactly your type and she’s willing to have an adult relationship at the first meeting, wouldn’t it be better to go ahead then? There’s no guarantee you’ll get a second chance to see her.
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
In that case, give her the same amount as you did on the second meeting the first time, then head home.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
This is columnist Fuu.
You’re being cautious.
Since C has made preparations and is expecting an allowance, you should explain things clearly. Otherwise, she might mistakenly think she did something wrong.
Attractive girls are often being courted by multiple papas, so she may end up choosing another papa. Unless, of course, you skip the adult relationship on the first meeting but offer the adult allowance—that’s a different story.
I feel that not inviting her to an adult relationship from the first meeting puts you at a disadvantage. You could see how things go, assess your physical compatibility and personalities, and then decide whether to continue. You might regret missing your first chance. Sometimes, it really is first come, first served.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too.
You could explain everything clearly during the first dinner, discuss the allowance for the next time, and even give her a slightly larger thank-you payment that day. That might make things go a little differently.
However, if she came on the date expecting to receive an allowance that day, she may be disappointed when things don’t go as planned.
In that case, after discussing the allowance for the next time and agreeing on an amount, you could give her the same allowance as for an adult relationship (intimate), even if that day was dinner only (no intimacy). I think that would greatly increase the chances of seeing her again.
I’m assuming this question is about a woman who is exactly your type and someone you really want to pursue, so that’s why I’m suggesting this approach.
Normally, you’d probably be fine giving her only the club’s transportation allowance, capped at ¥10,000, for the first meeting, then agreeing on the allowance for future dates based on the amount she wants.
But if you want to make things more certain, I think offering the same allowance as for an adult relationship (intimate), even for dinner only, would improve your chances.