How should I respond when someone asks, “You must be getting lots of offers, right?”
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I’m often complimented on my looks, and I’ve received more than 20 offers through the club, so I think I’m probably above average in appearance. Because of that, the men who make me offers often ask things like, “You’re meeting other men who’ve made you offers too, right?” or “How many other men are you going to meet?” If I truly had no offers besides that particular man, I would simply tell him honestly, “You’re the only one.” But if I’m scheduled to meet 10 more men this month, it’s difficult to lie. If I do lie, I feel like I’m confirming, “I’m not attractive enough to get offers.” And I don’t think having such low self-esteem is a good thing either.
On the other hand, if I honestly say I’m planning to meet more than 10 other men, he’ll probably think, “So I’m just one of the many men she’s meeting.” What would be the best way to respond so I don’t come across as too stuck-up, while also not making myself seem like a woman a man can easily get?
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Using the same kind of back-and-forth as “How’s it going?” → “Can’t complain,” how about responding to “How many offers do you get?” with:
“I get quite a few offers. How about you?”
If you give too specific a number, some papas might be put off.
And if you’d like to continue seeing the papa who asked, don’t forget to let him know that you’re interested in him and would like to keep things going.
Sounds good. It’s a number that gives you plenty of options and something to dream about. Take your time choosing the right papa, and I hope you have a great papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) experience.
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In situations like that, rather than giving an exact number, I think it’s better to answer with something like “a lot” or “quite a few.”
In this case, you could say:
“Other men have been making offers and meeting with you too, right?”
“Yes, I was surprised—I didn’t expect to receive so many offers.”
Or:
“How many more men are you going to meet?”
“Huh? How many more women are you planning to meet from now on?”
Something along those lines should work.
To wrap things up, you could say:
“You’re such a nice person, so I was hoping we could continue seeing each other. Would I not be good enough for you?”
That might be a good way to sum things up.
Of course, if he’s not a good man, you don’t need to say something you don’t really mean.
> I feel like if I lie, I’m admitting that I have no appeal.
I think you’re misunderstanding this part.
Even if you had truly received only one offer, the fact that he asks, “You’re getting offers from other men too, right?” simply means he recognizes that you’re an appealing person.
No matter what you say, he won’t think you’re unattractive.
On the other hand, if he asks something like, “You’re not getting any offers, are you?” that seems much more troubling. It feels like he’s trying to get you for as little as possible.
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How about something like:
“I still have about ten more people to meet, but honestly, it’s exhausting. I’d like to settle on you, ○○♡”
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