A month ago, my papa asked what I wanted for my birthday, so I said a certain wallet costing around ¥50,000.
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He said, “Sure,” and I’ve been waiting ever since. After a month, I asked him again, and he replied, “I know!” I only asked twice because I didn’t want to seem pushy.
He says he’s busy and hasn’t had a chance to buy it, but there’s still no sign that he plans to get it…
I usually see him at night, when the stores are closed, so we can’t go shopping for it together.
I know he’s seeing other women too—I’ve confirmed it—so I assume part of the reason is that he’s giving them money as well.
If he didn’t want to buy me a birthday present, I wish he had just said so from the beginning.
What should I say to my papa…?
We talk on the phone three or four times a week and meet about three times a month, but it always ends with us having an adult relationship (intimate).
I really think he just doesn’t have time to go out and buy it during the day.
It seems like he does want to give it to you—he’s not saying he won’t—but he probably means well and just hasn’t gotten around to it.
For your own peace of mind, it’s probably best to think of it as a lucky bonus if you get it once you’ve almost forgotten about it.
Marika
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I don’t usually ask for anything on my birthday in the first place, so if someone asked me what I wanted and then didn’t follow through, I’d feel a little bothered too… It’s like, “Then don’t ask me in the first place.” If it were me, I’d just let it go. I think reminding him would only leave a bad impression.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> What should I say to my papa…?
It’s best not to say anything.
If he gives it to you once you’ve completely forgotten about it, just be genuinely happy. Even if you feel like saying, “I thought you’d forgotten,” or anything else, I think it’s better to hold back and say nothing.
Even if you ultimately don’t receive anything, I think you should accept that’s just how it is and keep the relationship strictly allowance-only.
It is strange that he asked you about it but hasn’t given you anything. That said, some men never offer an allowance in the first place.
It may help to tell yourself that you weren’t expecting anything anyway.
Still, just asking about it and then doing nothing is a bit much… It naturally gets your hopes up.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It’s best not to say anything. Even if you do, they’ll probably just say, “I know!” and find you annoying.
If you’re thinking of ending things because it’s frustrating that they never give you presents, I’d suggest asking a few times first.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I’m sure you’re not a total money-grubber either, but reading your post made me feel even more fond of my absolute favorite girl and think, “How can she be this cute?” Thank you.
Ah, you mean the amount of money. In that case, it’s only a fraction of that amount.
If the man you’re seeing also has other women, he may be paying three or four times as much.
As for gifts, amounts like 5, 15, or 30 are fine when they come from a man. But when they come from a woman, men are happier if she simply says she wants something she likes—even if it costs only 1, 2, or 3, or even less. A wonderful woman can make even a 0.2 or 0.3 item look like a luxury-brand gift.
I’m sorry, but after reading this, I found myself thinking how relieved I am that my partner isn’t a woman like you.
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Also, a wallet isn’t really ideal.
Even if a woman asks a man for a wallet, it doesn’t make him that happy, and it makes him look rather pathetic.
If it’s a wallet, the man should give it to her as a surprise, at just the right moment when she’ll be happy—something genuinely moving.
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