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Jul 30, 2021 20:59
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A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
Just as men should be free to say goodbye if a woman tries to negotiate a higher allowance, I think women should also be free to walk away if a man tries to negotiate it down.
In the end, it comes down to how you feel about it.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
The atmosphere after “That’s awful!” sounds scary, lol.
If there’s going to be a reduction in the allowance on the assumption that you’ll continue seeing each other, it should come from the woman—not the man.
When a man asks to lower it, he’s thinking, “It’s fine if this ends; if she agrees to the lower amount, that’s a lucky break.”
That’s how I see it.
So even if the person asking the question decides to end things, that may have been within the man’s expectations.
If he’s asking to reduce the allowance for some unavoidable reason, he should be able to explain it properly and give you a convincing reason.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
It depends on the person asking, but I think it could continue.
Outside of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—in the general public, rather than through clubs or apps—3 is a high amount.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
I’m not sure what happened after they said, “That’s terrible,” but if the amount of 50,000 yen never came up, I think it would be fine to part ways.
For example, if you feel that 30,000 yen would be acceptable, then that’s fine too. I think it ultimately comes down to how you feel about it.
That said, forcing yourself or putting up with things will probably only build up stress.
Meg
Female
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🏅 修行の身
光と影
Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member.
It feels awful when someone suddenly tries to lower the allowance while other people are around, doesn’t it?
That happened to me too, about six months into seeing him.
But he explained the reason properly.
In my case, I was okay with it. I wasn’t seeing him solely for the allowance in the first place.
I wonder how you feel about it.
Other
I’m Nana Ayase♡
If they ask you to lower your allowance, just say, “I understand. Goodbye.”
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Depending on how the man responds to a laughing “That’s awful!”, it will probably mean the end of things in most cases.