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Jul 26, 2021 07:31
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A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
I like pillow talk. You want to savor the afterglow, right?
I don’t mind if she goes straight to the shower, but I do find myself thinking, “I’m not going to do anything more intimate, so let’s just cuddle for a while…”
I often make offers to women who enjoy drinking, so I’ll chill some good sake in the hotel fridge. After our adult relationship (intimate), we’ll often have a drink together and relax with some pillow talk.
Sexual compatibility is important, but I think it’s really about the overall balance, including how you act afterward.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I get it. I’m also the type who likes to linger and have a long pillow talk—in fact, I even like it when a woman starts drifting off in my arms.
A woman who rushes to take a shower is a negative point for me too, unless there’s something that makes up for it.
That said, I do make a pretty conscious effort to avoid things like bad breath.
Other
I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
> You may be desperate to wash off the old guy’s saliva as soon as possible, but you wouldn’t ask her out on a second date. You say physical compatibility is important, but so is how someone behaves afterward.
This line stood out to me.
Even though you’re capable of considering things from another person’s perspective, I feel you still have a strong “I’m the one doing the choosing” attitude that comes across as rather condescending.
Of course, every woman has different values, so I can’t make a blanket statement. But I can’t help imagining that she found that attitude unpleasant and simply wanted to leave as soon as possible.
If you want to be treated well, I think you should start by treating others well yourself. Before worrying about compatibility, I think that’s what you should focus on.
Using money as an intermediary can partly be a way to “cheat” your way past shortcomings caused by age, appearance, or lack of effort. But this is not simply a business relationship between a shop and a customer.
It might help to step back and think about how you should interact with someone when you’re both standing on equal footing as human beings—50:50.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
> I feel like many girls want to take a shower right away and leave.
If they’re doing that even though it’s not what you want, the issue may lie with you. As far as I can remember, I’ve never had that experience.
Regardless of whether they shower, the moments immediately afterward are important for both people.
Some like to bask in the afterglow, while others don’t; some go to sleep, while others stay awake. Even though everyone is different, it’s an important moment of communication, when both people express how satisfied they are.
I think that moment reveals whether you’ve been communicating properly up to that point.
If you’ve communicated well, then whether they shower afterward or not, you should still feel a deep sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.
Could it be that something about your conversation, intimacy, attitude, tone, or facial expressions has become too one-sided?
Meg
Female
Send a reverse offer to this responder
🏅 修行の身
光と影
Age: 50s
👩 Female
Former Universe member
I’m Meg, one of the female members.
I’m also a fan of pillow talk.
It’s just that in summer, you’re already sweating more than usual…
So if a papa kindly asks, “Would you like to take a shower first?” I definitely consider him a gentleman, and it earns him major points♪
And if there’s still time afterward, you can relax together in bed too.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> I also place importance on how she acts afterward.
That wording makes it sound as though you’re the one in control, but when you say:
> Many of them immediately take a shower and try to leave,
I take that to mean they want to get away and go home as quickly as possible.
You may want to take a closer look at yourself and consider what might be causing this.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
I understand how you feel, but I can also see things from the woman’s perspective. Being intimate with someone old enough to be your father would normally be unpleasant unless he was really her type, wouldn’t it?
A professional papa-katsu girl could probably handle it smoothly, but the woman you met was likely just an ordinary young person. If you want to be affectionate with an ordinary young woman, you’ll need to improve your appearance to make up for the age gap.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I also like to shower right afterward.
I care more about human compatibility and whether we enjoy talking together than sexual compatibility. Even if the sexual chemistry isn’t great, I’ll keep seeing someone if we have fun talking.