I saw the previous question and wanted to share that not all women are like that. Sorry for posting even though I’m not an answerer.
If I were to ask a question, it would be: how can I keep things going without seeming too intense when my feelings show too much to my papa?
Of course, I’m sure there are female members who have a transactional relationship purely for the allowance, as well as male members who date solely for sex.
In my case, among the men who have offered to meet me, I get butterflies with the ones I’ve continued seeing—not only while waiting to meet, but also during dinner and, of course, afterward. I think it’s because these men have so much mature sex appeal and warmth, and even if they’re only looking for an adult relationship (intimate), they treat me with care throughout the time we spend together.
For me, it’s almost like I use the allowance as a brake, holding back my feelings while enjoying a sort of pretend romance. I receive the allowance at the very end, but I’m filled with gratitude because I get both a wonderful time and the allowance.
I only registered recently and am doing my best to build lasting relationships, so if I gain more experience, I’d love to become an answerer someday too.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> My feelings for my papa come across too strongly, and I’m worried he’ll find me too intense. Are there any tips for continuing the relationship without seeming too needy?
Relationships through an escort club are, in a sense, a “contract.” I think it’s best to honor the promises you made when you started seeing each other and treat him as someone important—with the allowance included as part of the arrangement.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer this one too.
> I’d like to become a respondent someday, once I’ve gained more experience.
I think some people may find your perspective valuable even if you don’t have much experience yet.
You might as well give being a respondent a try.
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I’m Meg, one of the female members.
I love that fresh, excited feeling!
I was like that at first too…
It brings back memories (*´-`)
I still get butterflies, and I still think my papa (a male supporter) is handsome.
But as we’ve been together longer and overcome various things, I can really feel how much he cherishes me. It’s such a bittersweet, heart-fluttering feeling…
I’m so devoted to my papa that I’d almost like you to tell me if there’s a trick to keeping things going without seeming too clingy. (I’ve been told I’m a crybaby.)
I look forward to the day you can join us as one of the people answering questions♪
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Dai,
Nice to meet you.
Thank you for such a helpful answer m(_ _)m
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I know that heart-pounding feeling. For me, it’s actually the opposite—I sometimes give off such a strong “I like my papa too much, it hurts” vibe, haha. People even call me a yandere, but he hasn’t come to dislike me.
My papa is married, and there’s a significant age gap between us, so even when I get too intense, he handles it with the composure of a mature adult. Maybe things have lasted because he understands that this is different from a normal romantic relationship… Otherwise, I’d probably become too emotionally invested.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I can’t say how common it is, but there are moments when I feel that my partner has genuine affection for me, while the fact that this is an allowance-based relationship acts as a brake on those feelings. Without that emotional connection, it would become nothing more than a relationship where sex is exchanged for money, which I think would leave men feeling empty too.
To answer your question, I think what you called “using the allowance as a brake” is very important. That said, some men may not be looking for feelings in the relationship at all, while others may want genuine feelings without any brakes. Unless you find a good match in terms of that kind of distance as well, the relationship probably won’t last long.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I think the key to continuing things without coming across as clingy is to maintain the right amount of distance for each man.
Some men like to message on LINE almost every day about what happened that day, while others only use LINE to arrange the date and location of their next meeting.
I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying a good relationship!
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