Would you tell someone who seems to be fading out on you that you want to see them soon or travel together once COVID settles down? With the state of emergency in place, I don’t know when we’ll be able to meet again. I’d like to hear opinions from both men and women.
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Also, I’m in my 30s. What should I work on to clearly set myself apart from women in their 20s?
I’m date◎yume, a male member.
> Would you email someone you’re trying to let fade away naturally, saying you want to see her soon or that you’d like to travel together once things settle down with COVID?
I don’t think I would.
In my case, we kept seeing each other at our usual intervals, regardless of COVID（笑）. Of course, we agreed to contact each other promptly if anything unusual came up, but so far, it’s been “all clear” for both of us.
If she’s in her 30s, then perhaps she’s looking for an adult relationship with the kind of physical companionship men seek—after all, this is a dating club...
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
If you were planning to let things fade out, you wouldn’t just stop messaging me on LINE. And saying you won’t meet because of the state of emergency doesn’t make any sense. There are plenty of ways to meet.
Do you think someone is wonderful just because she’s in her 20s?
People in their 30s, 40s, and 50s are wonderful too.
Even women in their 30s are still young~
I don’t need someone young either.
I’d rather go for men in their 40s and 50s.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I think you’ve already set yourself apart through your age and experience. There’s no need to worry about it, imitate anyone, or compete with them.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
> Would someone who was trying to let things fade naturally really email me saying they wanted to see me soon or travel together once COVID settled down?
No, not usually.
That said, even if that’s how they feel right now, circumstances could change—or they could change their mind—before you meet again.
> What should I work on to clearly set myself apart?
I think it’s life experience, along with the calmness and depth of character that come from it.
Of course, sexual technique probably matters too.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
The idea that things are about to fade out naturally is based on your perspective. Have you checked how the other person feels? They may have given up, thinking you weren’t interested because you hadn’t contacted them. You should reach out at least once.
A lot of people—both men and women—also misunderstand the importance of age. Being in your twenties doesn’t automatically make someone better, and there are plenty of wonderful people in their thirties, forties, and fifties. Looks are important, but only as an introduction—as the starting point of a relationship. If you want to maintain a long-term relationship, what matters isn’t appearance but what’s on the inside: personality, manners, and compatibility. I can’t think of anything specific you should do, but one thing is certain: people who act or speak in ways that make others feel anxious or uncomfortable are not a good choice. Negative thinking is one example of that.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here, too.
> Would you tell someone by email that you want to see them soon or that you’d like to travel once things settle down with COVID if you were trying to let the relationship fade out naturally?
I don’t think I’d say those things to someone I was trying to let fade away naturally. But if it were someone I had no intention of meeting and just wanted to enjoy chatting with, I feel like I might say things like that quite often.
Why not try sending something like:
“I signed up for PayPay.
I know it’s COVID, but I’m craving something delicious.
Could you help me out a little—maybe around ¥10,000?
I’ll send you pictures of what I eat.”
They probably want to keep the conversation going, so I think they’d send it. But if even that is too much for them, I feel like you don’t need to reply anymore.
> What should I work on to make myself stand out in an easy-to-understand way?
I think it’s difficult to stand out in an obvious way. But once someone meets you, things like having an incredible sex appeal, attractive gestures, or a beautiful way of walking can make you popular.
Also, if you’re good at H, people may want to see you again.
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