I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
I understand what you’re saying, but I can’t help thinking:
“Are there really men who say things like that?”
“Did you make a mistake somewhere in your post?”
An ordinary man wants to have H with a woman, so he wouldn’t normally make an offer where it would be more advantageous not to have H—such as refusing to cover transportation or shopping expenses if you do.
I don’t really understand why he would make that kind of offer.
The idea of “I’ll give you an allowance if you have H with me” as some kind of trade-off doesn’t make sense either.
Could it be that the allowance is ¥200,000 for one night?
If so, I suppose you’re choosing between the ¥200,000 allowance and the shopping—though I don’t know how much you plan to spend, perhaps a bag costing around ¥200,000.
Shouldn’t you simply consider which option benefits you more?
For example, if the allowance is ¥100,000, it would be more advantageous to have him buy you a ¥200,000 bag and cover your transportation costs. So I think you should work out where the break-even point is.
Then compare that break-even point with the allowance minus transportation costs, and you should be able to tell which option is better.
It sounds like you want both, but this time, I think you should give up on that and calculate which choice is more advantageous.
> How should I explain that to him?
You could simply say, “I want both.”
However, since the man is saying you have to choose one or the other, I think you should honestly choose one this time.
If you’re confident in your appeal, you could say, “If I can’t have both, then staying overnight isn’t an option,” and keep pushing until he gives in.
But if he doesn’t find you appealing enough, there’s also a chance things will simply end there.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Judging from this question and the previous one, is it becoming common in some circles to not give an allowance once things become an adult relationship (intimate)?
It’s extremely difficult to make someone pay when they have no intention of doing so. If you’re prepared to end things, I think it’s important to be clear and say, “If becoming intimate means I won’t receive anything, then I don’t want that kind of relationship.”
