I’m a single man in my early 60s, dating a woman in her mid-30s. I have two adult children with my ex-wife.
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After dating for about two years, she told me that she loved me so much that she no longer wanted an allowance, and we began seeing each other without one. In return, I bought her a condo in Tokyo for her to live in. The condo is still registered in my name.
About six months later, I started feeling uneasy about being alone forever, so I began occasionally telling her that I wanted us to continue our relationship with marriage in mind.
I do wonder whether she may be interested in my assets, but after two and a half years together, I also believe she genuinely has feelings for me. I can no longer imagine my life without her. If I still feel the same way after some time, I’ve recently started thinking that it would be fine if she had at least some interest in my assets, and that I might be willing to marry her.
I’ve already decided that if we ever break up, I will transfer the condo into her name. However, I’m still unsure about marriage and haven’t made up my mind. I would appreciate any advice.
I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the CEO’s office.
No one knows what the right answer is at this point.
However, if you’re thinking:
“I can no longer imagine my life without her. If I still feel this way after some time has passed, then perhaps it’s okay if she has at least some interest in my assets, and maybe I should marry her.”
then I think that’s perfectly fine.
If you have no intention of getting married, some people believe it’s better to break up so the other person doesn’t miss their chance to marry. I don’t know whether that’s truly the right thing to do, though.
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It’s difficult to say, but I feel your intuition—that they may be after the inheritance and that you’re feeling conflicted—is probably right.
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This morning, my wife threatened me, saying, “We’re getting a divorce when we’re older.” I’m Papercraft, a male member who’s currently washing the dishes.
So this was a marriage without any dating period, right? There’s also the age gap…
And the allowance arrangement has gone on for a long time, so it’s pretty scary.
It would be best to accept that we met in the wrong place and move on, but…
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I’m Nana Ayase♡
If you get married, remember that wealthy man who was murdered the other day?
You’re after his fortune, aren’t you? Do you really think he loves you?
You can’t just quietly get married somewhere crowded. Try saying, “There are various circumstances,” okay?
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I agree with Marika.
From what I can tell, you’re already close to being blinded by love, so it might be best to look into everything thoroughly before proceeding, to avoid any problems later.
—Akari
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I’m sure your girlfriend isn’t like this, but if she said, “The apartment is in my name, and we’ll be getting married soon,” with a sly grin, that would be pretty scary.
In dramas, though, the next thing they go after is usually your life…
Of course, I’m sure she’s not that kind of person, but when you don’t know what someone is really like, it’s easy to imagine a story straight out of a suspense drama (^_^;)
If you’re seriously thinking about getting married, it might not hurt to hire a private investigator or something. At the very least, just to make sure there isn’t another man.
Marika
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I’m in Seattle.
If it were me, I wouldn’t get married in exchange for receiving 100 million yen. I feel like I’d end up having a lot of conflict with her two children.
Ultimately, it depends on how strongly you feel about her. If you’re okay with half of your inheritance going to the woman rather than her children, then getting married could be an option.
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