I’m a female member. I understand that, with letter dates, women don’t receive any compensation until they actually meet. Honestly, I don’t think I can continue with someone who wants to exchange erotic messages even though we’ve never met. But would this be considered fraud involving the offer fee? Even in a situation like this, could my rating be lowered if the man files a complaint?

I’m Fuu, a columnist. That papa lacks imagination. Block him and give the club your feedback. Once you’ve been introduced, you’re free to pursue the relationship on your own, but the club will still listen to your feedback. Even if the papa gives you negative feedback, the club will calmly consider feedback from both the men and women. If he really says things like that, other female members have probably submitted negative feedback about him too, so the club will recognize that he’s a strange person. Don’t worry. Papas like this are a minority. Just chalk it up to having happened to run into an oddball, forget about him, and wait for your next offer.

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. If you’re no longer interested, you don’t have to reply from that point on. I think it’s perfectly fine to just block him. No one is going to call that a scam, and even if they did, the staff wouldn’t see it that way. It seems many men still don’t really understand Letter Dates. They seem to think that because the offer fee is lower, they can have the same kind of relationship as with a regular arrangement. In other words, they think they can meet easily without having to be considerate of the woman. But they don’t seem able to think about why there’s a difference in the setup fees. The club should explain it properly, of course. But even when we try to explain, if they respond, “I already know that,” there’s not much else we can do. I really want men to understand that with Letter Dates, if they aren’t considerate of the woman, they won’t get a reply. A kind man might naturally send her some money via PayPay or LINE Pay at the beginning, for example. But it seems there are a lot of men who can’t do ordinary things in an ordinary way.

I’m “Paper Airplane,” a male member. In this case, the right thing to do is simply not reply because you’ve been put off. One benefit of letter dating is that you can easily identify men with ulterior motives without even having to meet them. Feedback is certainly important, but feedback from a man who couldn’t even manage to meet through letter dating would only embarrass him. Men who have nothing to worry about won’t use it as a reference. If anything, I think it can be a positive sign that you’re a genuine woman who is trying to approach things sincerely.

I’m Kazu, a male member. What a foolish man, haha. It’s not as though the woman is receiving the setting fee, so if she doesn’t like him, I think it’s perfectly fine to ignore him. I don’t think it would affect her rating at all, but if she’s concerned, she could send this question to the site’s feedback team just to be safe.