I’m Fuu, a columnist.
That’s great that you received an offer. Just as certain things a papa says can make you feel uncomfortable, you might make him feel uncomfortable too. So if you want to keep the relationship going, it’s probably best not to mention it.
I imagine that when a papa tells you about going on dates with other girls, he’s trying to make you jealous.
I don’t talk about other girls myself, and I don’t try to get information about them from the other person either.
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> Should I stop saying, “I got another offer”?
I think it’s better not to bring it up yourself. Sometimes people don’t ask because they simply don’t want to know.
Why tell someone something they don’t want to hear?
So what should you do when they ask? I think it’s best to just gloss over it tactfully.
> I’m honestly not that happy when I’m told that.
If that’s how you feel, then I think you shouldn’t say it. If the man you’re seeing says it, he’s simply being insensitive.
Or perhaps he’s only ever dated women who didn’t mind.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’ve never heard of that myself.
Even without asking, I could pretty much tell.
The reason is that I thought, “A relationship wouldn’t last like that.” (lol)
It played out exactly as I expected...
I think it’s fine either way—whether you say it or not.
Men will probably make their judgment while getting a feel for the woman.
I’m a column writer, Flag Maker.
I think it really depends on the person, but if you want to play it safe, many male members are jealous types. In other words, don’t mention other men or other offers. The safest approach is the “You’re the only one” routine. Judging from the columns aimed at women, that seems to be the standard.
Personally, I don’t ask about other offers or male members, and I don’t bring up the other women I’m seeing either. If a woman tells me, “You’re the only one,” I’ll calmly lie back and say, “You’re the only one for me, too.” If she says, “I hated having a papa like this,” I’ll respond, “I hated having a woman like that.” And if she says, “That papa was so wonderful,” I’ll just say, “He sounds really wonderful!” So I don’t really feel anything about it. If she seems like she wants me to be jealous, I’ll pretend to be jealous and lie.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Personally, I like hearing about it because I find it interesting, and I’m speaking from my own perspective. I’ve had women tell me they wouldn’t be happy about me going on dates with another woman whose personality might overlap with theirs.
