I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
If a woman says, “I’m okay with an adult relationship,” goes to a hotel, takes a bath, washes each other, then sends her partner to bed while she puts on her underwear and gets ready to leave, that would certainly raise suspicions of a dating-type scam.
I don’t think it’s a matter of the ratio based on the number of men she has met.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well.
If it’s one out of ten, that’s totally fine. Even one out of two wouldn’t really be a problem.
The reason is that for Type C, the expected rejection rate—specifically for the first date—is 50%. So even with Type C, it’s okay if one out of two people turns you down.
Type D is the one where things are almost always expected to work out, but even with Type D, you’re still allowed to decline. I believe the expected rejection rate is around 10%—though it may have been 20%, so I apologize if I’m misremembering. If one out of ten people turns you down, that seems about on par with Type D.
That said, Types C and D apply from the first meeting, so they’re quite different from Type B in that respect.
Going back to the main point, whether you’re seen as misrepresenting your type may depend on how you decline.
If you feel bad turning him down and try to spare his feelings by saying something like:
“I only do dinner dates. (It’s not that I’m turning you down because I dislike you.)”
then, although you’re trying to be considerate, it could end up becoming a story about how “this woman misrepresented her relationship type.”
So rather than being overly considerate, I think it’s better to clearly decline by saying something like:
“I don’t think it would be possible for us to continue seeing each other.”
That way, you won’t be accused of misrepresenting your type. Even if the club receives such a report, they’ll probably just think, “People do turn others down sometimes.”
If you’re worried, you could also write something in the feedback section, such as:
“I turned him down because I felt it would be difficult for us to continue seeing each other.”
or:
“I declined because the terms were too low.”
That would make it clear that you might have continued seeing someone else under different circumstances.
> In that case, should I change my relationship type?
> Is it okay to leave it as it is?
It’s fine to leave it as it is.
Please find a man you genuinely like.
That said, ideally, dinner dates should be limited to no more than three meetings, so I think it would be best to make your decision within that time. This is only a guideline, of course, not an absolute rule.
If you still haven’t reached a conclusion after four or more meetings, you’re more likely to be accused of misrepresenting your type.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
If only about one in ten women say they don’t want a second date, that’s a low enough percentage that I wouldn’t consider it a bait-and-switch regarding your stated dating style at all.
I think you’re perfectly fine as you are.
If you’re often told that one out of ten people are “type scammers,” that still means three out of 30 offers or five out of 50—which is quite a lot of offers.
Even if the number reaches ten, as long as the ratio remains one in ten, I don’t think you need to worry about it.
Marika
