Why do people so often ask A-type women (who only want dinner dates) whether they’re open to an adult relationship?

Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer this one as well. > Why do people so often ask about wanting an A-type relationship (dinner only) but eventually becoming intimate? For example, say you become friendly with a woman somewhere and the two of you become friends. Naturally, you might invite her out to dinner, but not many people would invite someone to an adult relationship right from the start. However, after having dinner or going on dates a few times, you might develop a relationship that includes kissing. And eventually, it may become an adult relationship (intimate). Of course, that won’t happen if the woman sees you as nothing more than a friend. But men may have romantic or physical interest at the very least, so they may eventually invite her to an adult relationship. What men seek from A-type women is similar. At a dating club, the age gap can be addressed through an allowance. So some men may think, “If I date an A-type woman for three or six months, maybe it could eventually become an adult relationship.” That’s probably why these questions come up. Anyone who brings up an adult relationship from the very first meeting simply doesn’t understand what the relationship type means. However, once you’ve been seeing each other for a while, I think it’s better to understand that conversations about an adult relationship may naturally come up. If you’re thinking of this as something like a job where you get paid just for having dinner, then a dating club may simply not be the right place for you. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting dinner only. But because you’re dealing with another person, you may grow closer while dating and eventually end up having an adult relationship. That kind of progression is probably more natural. In that situation, it’s perfectly fine to bring up the allowance. It may feel a little unnatural, but I don’t think most people are looking for a completely genuine romantic relationship either. Men also register with dating clubs because they see compensating for the age gap with an allowance as a normal part of the arrangement. Men who date A-type women may be looking for something as close to romance as possible. But if you’re looking for an allowance in exchange for dinner only as a professional date, you may be better off looking elsewhere. I’m sure there are people at Universe who are happy with dinner only, but I don’t think there are that many.

I’m BB7, a male member. Do you clearly state on your profile what you absolutely won’t accept? That should prevent quite a lot. If you’re not asking about general practice but simply saying, “Don’t make me an offer,” then just say so.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. I’m sorry to say this, but I think more male members are driven by strong desires than not. That’s the nature of a dating club. It would be better for you to accept that some male members really do make offers thinking they might be able to persuade you into going beyond A, and that this probably won’t stop. If you don’t have what it takes to handle those men and make money from them, you can simply turn them down. Think of the allowance for one meeting as compensation for putting up with it. If turning them down is also extremely stressful, or if you’re not actually in need of the money, then there doesn’t seem to be any reason to force yourself to remain a member.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. That’s a good question（笑） > As a female member who is Type A, I personally don’t want anyone who is even considering an adult relationship with a Type A woman to make an offer. Exactly. Everyone knows drunk driving is a no-go! Taking secret photos is absolutely not okay! And yet, incidents still happen. Why is the world like this...? For some reason, Type A offers seem similar. To avoid making either side uncomfortable, women who accept offers should clearly promote what kind of activities they’re looking for. It might also be a good idea to copy the question itself into the women’s comment section, if possible, to prevent mismatches.

I’m Aya, a female member. As I also wrote in my answer to the question that started this discussion, older men who aggressively pursue an adult relationship with Type A women really remind me of the creepy, sexually harassing old guys at work, which is pretty uncomfortable. I’m not really sure about customers of delivery health services, though.

I’m Basil, a male member. Exactly, which is why I don’t make offers to Type A women. If someone who pressures them for an adult relationship happens to succeed, I suppose they bask in the self-satisfaction of having talked an inexperienced woman into it.

I’m Kazu, a male member. As you’ve written yourself, Type A is for those who “only want dinner.” In life, you can’t always get everything your way.

I’m Hikoki, a male member. I agree completely with what you’ve written. Men should make offers with an understanding of those feelings. At the same time, I think she sounds like a genuinely decent Type A woman. Some women posing as Type B or C are mixed in among them, and there are also greedy Type A women. Compared with them, her straightforward, uncomplicated approach without ulterior motives is a good thing. And even knowing all that, it’s part of a man’s nature to see relationships between men and women as a world only the two people involved can truly understand. I suppose it’s the instinct that drives us to embark on a hunt without knowing whether we’ll actually catch our prey.

There’s no rule saying a Type A arrangement can never involve an adult relationship (intimate), so just tell the man that directly. You may be tired of being asked so often, but try to accept that it’s part of the allowance and let it go. If you’re not desperately in need of money, I don’t think it’s a problem if he cuts you off after you turn him down. And since you probably don’t want to deal with someone who’s only hoping for a chance at intimacy anyway, maybe it’s for the best. Marika