We’ve been seeing each other for a long time and are quite close, but I still can’t know everything about her. There’s always some distance between us, and parts of her remain mysterious.

I’m Fuu, a column writer. I do want to build a relationship with some emotional connection, but if we completely close the emotional distance between us, I’m afraid it could turn into a full-blown romantic relationship and become a tangled mess. I feel that maintaining a distance both people are comfortable with is the key to an arrangement through a dating club. Unless a man has something truly exceptional to offer, I don’t think his female partner actually wants a romantic relationship with an older guy like him. What she mainly wants is money, and the best papa (a male supporter) is someone who pays her while causing as little stress as possible. If he’s paying a very generous allowance, it’s probably safest to assume she’s simply acting out a sort of make-believe romance. Personally, I keep things at the level of being fairly close, and I remind myself not to get serious about any one person. I see multiple partners so I can spread out my feelings. If you learn too much about someone, jealousy and other strange emotions may start to surface. Wouldn’t it be better to have a relationship where you can simply enjoy the time together—and H—without all those troublesome feelings of jealousy, possessiveness, or resentment getting in the way?

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. Don’t think about things that way. It’s up to her whether she wants to talk about it. If she doesn’t feel from the beginning that she wants to talk to you, can relax around you, and be honest and natural, then it’s going to be difficult. You also need to understand that someone receiving money from you will rarely speak their true feelings, and interact with her with that in mind. If that’s what you want, I think your only option is to end things, start over by getting offers from new women, and learn through experience.

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here with an answer as well. > There are still mysterious aspects to her. Sometimes, that’s exactly what draws you in. If you knew everything about someone, it might actually become boring. I think you should enjoy things as they are for now. In fact, while feeling that fear that you might lose interest if she opened up to you, you could turn things around by saying something like: “Wait—don’t tell me about yourself.”

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think you’re asking for too much. Since you’re not family, isn’t it enough that she tells you where she’s going? As long as you keep getting too involved, I don’t think she’ll open up to you or trust you. I’m not sure whether you need to take one step back or several, but I think it’s important to give her some space.