And how many do you think is ideal or appropriate?
I have two women in monthly arrangements that have lasted over six months,
two casual connections I see occasionally,
and two women I can still get in touch with.
I’m hardly flush with cash, so it took me about two and a half years to build up this group. I often feel that each relationship is just a little lacking, so I try to make an offer about once a month to replenish my options, but I’m also worried that this activity could exceed my means.
I also think it would be preferable for the women in my monthly arrangements to naturally rotate over time. A close relationship is probably enough for a year at most. For me, it’s more important to have enough emotional space to welcome someone new…
(Incidentally, one of the women in a monthly arrangement mentioned above apparently has six papas (male supporters) through that arrangement alone, but it doesn’t look like a particularly healthy lifestyle, either physically or mentally.)
I don’t think I’m especially demanding of my partners. I’m satisfied—and grateful—just to have someone accept a married older guy like me.
As for the all-important allowance, it’s between 30,000 and 60,000 yen.
I imagine this is probably somewhere around the median level of activity, but I have absolutely no contact with other male members, so I thought I’d ask here.
I’m Aya, a female member.
I have two monthly arrangement papas, plus one papa (a male supporter) who usually lives overseas.
I’ve been seeing my monthly arrangement papas for four and two years, respectively. I also had three other arrangements that lasted one to two years, but I ended those because I wanted to focus on taking good care of a small number of papas.
I still keep in touch with those men from time to time, though. Somehow, I feel like about half of my arrangements end up lasting at least a year.
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I’m a male member who goes by “Paper Airplane.”
I have two women I’ve been seeing once to three times a week for over six months, and one woman I see casually about once or twice a month.
There are also plenty of women I’m still in touch with—ones I meet anywhere from once every few months to once or twice a year.
The allowance is between 30,000 and 50,000 yen. It’s not based on their class or rank; it may vary depending on what each woman wants.
At the moment, I have no offers out.
Lately, I’ve only really wanted to see those two women, so I’m more or less satisfied and on a break.
I think I’m in the kind of situation Maezawa-san was referring to:
> For someone who thinks one person is enough, wouldn’t around three be better?
I already have two favorites… That’s more than enough for me.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
Mine is pretty similar.
- Two or three people I see once or twice a month
- Just under five people I stay in touch with and see once every one to three months, if at all
- New offers come in roughly once or twice a month
For various reasons—such as me losing interest and stopping contact, or the other person’s circumstances—the lineup tends to change every six months to a year.
I generally offer an allowance of 40,000–60,000 yen, and since things can get out of hand, I’ve decided that even with extras, I’ll never go into six figures.
I go on dates more often than I used to, but only once or twice a week, usually sometime from Friday to Sunday, and occasionally the day before I work from home.
Considering my time, energy, and finances, this is about my limit.
Hope this helps.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It’s almost been a year since I joined Universe.
I have two women I’ve been seeing for nearly a year. I meet one of them at least once a week, and the other about twice a month.
There’s also one woman I’ve been seeing for about three months, and I meet her once or twice a month.
I used to have four, but it became difficult to keep up, and I gradually lost touch with one of them. So right now, I feel like I have three ongoing relationships. Of course, the number of women matters, but I also think the frequency of the dates is important.
All three receive an allowance of 50,000 yen. It takes about three months to become comfortable enough to talk about anything and have satisfying sex. If things have continued for three months, I intend to keep seeing them for as long as possible, unless the woman says she wants to end things.
At the moment, I receive around zero to two new offers a month. I don’t often find women I like as much as the one I’ve been seeing for nearly a year.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer as well.
> How many partners do you think is ideal or appropriate?
It varies from person to person, so I don’t think there’s one right number. But since there are roughly 30 days in a month, if you meet each person once a month, it seems like around 30 would be the upper limit.
Some men are happy with just one partner, but in that case, they may end up expecting too much from that one woman, which can make things difficult. So sometimes I suggest that people who think one partner is enough might actually be better off with around three.
> I’m guessing this is probably around the median for how most people are actually active.
I often hear about allowances of around 5–15, but there seems to be a big gap between single-digit and double-digit amounts, so I get the impression that around 8 is the most common.
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