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Jun 7, 2021 10:17
9 answers
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer as well.
> What would it take to be promoted from mistress to wife?
If a man has been through a divorce, he may have had, for example, half of his assets taken from him and come to feel that Japanese law is unfair.
In Japan, even if the wife has never worked at all, money earned by the husband after marriage is considered jointly acquired marital property.
So if the couple accumulated ¥200 million in assets, the wife is legally entitled to receive ¥100 million upon divorce.
Some men simply can’t accept that. In such cases, they may decide never to marry again.
That said, once the man is over 70 and starts thinking about what will happen when he dies, there may still be a possibility.
He may begin to think, “If I’m going to die anyway, I wouldn’t mind the person I love inheriting my assets,” or, “Maybe I’d like this woman to be the one by my side at the end.”
With that in mind, playing the long game might be an option. If you can stay with him for decades, until he reaches that point, while also making sure he doesn’t get tired of you, there may be a chance.
Other than that, there may be a possibility if he becomes extremely attached to you and starts feeling that he couldn’t bear to lose you to someone else.
Once he feels secure, however, he may not think that way. So you might need to unsettle him from time to time by acting as if you might leave him for someone else.
But there’s also a chance that what you intended as a wake-up call could simply lead to a breakup, so it’s difficult.
I don’t think there’s any guaranteed way to make this work. Watch him carefully, try to understand what he’s feeling, and think about what would make him feel that he needs you before you act.
Other
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a male member.
Is it really so “greedy” for you to want to become your lover’s wife?
I don’t think having romantic feelings is necessarily a bad thing. However, I think you should honestly tell him that you want a proper relationship, confirm how he feels, and simply walk away if that isn’t what he wants.
There may be an age gap, but in marriage—where two individual personalities come together—it probably isn’t a major issue. Why not first end the affair and try having a “normal relationship between a man and a woman,” without any money changing hands?
Having written all that, I’m sure you’ve already reached this fairly obvious conclusion on your own. I suspect the real source of your troubles lies somewhere else.
I hope you find a wonderful relationship.
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
Maybe it means being prepared to take care of her?
Other
I’m Nana Ayase, a female member.
If you become his wife, he’ll cheat on you. That’s fine if all you want is for him to provide the money.
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
I think I might consider marrying someone if she were truly amazing.
But I know I’d definitely cheat, and I don’t want to make a wonderful woman unhappy, so I’ve chosen not to marry.
Your chances might improve if you write and sign a statement saying that cheating is acceptable and that you agree to cap the property settlement at ¥50 million.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Marriage may be possible, but the chances of meeting someone at a club and getting married are probably even far lower than the chances of meeting someone through the sex industry and getting married...
Other
I’m Chikuwa, a male member.
Wouldn’t it be difficult unless she believes you’ll stay by her side even when you don’t have money?
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
What do you think of this strategy: move in with him, take care of his daily needs, make him feel that I’m essential to his life, and then start hinting at marriage?
Other
It’s not about what you’re lacking. What matters first is whether he even wants a wife.
Marika