Tips Jun 5, 2021 10:40

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In addition to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’m also involved in an affair with a married man. I made him angry because of my jealousy, and he told me he wanted to keep his distance for about a month. But recently, he started checking my Instagram about twice a day, and yesterday evening he messaged me on LINE, “Good work today” and “How are you?” I didn’t know what to do, so I left him on read. After that, he wrote, “Sorry, I’m going home.” Then, about three hours later, I sent him, “Good work today,” and “Are you doing okay?” He replied, “I’m somehow keeping busy.” So… is it okay for me to wait and hope for the best? Is this a step toward him telling me that we should break up? He’s a very intelligent person, so I know he realizes he’s putting me under stress, but I’m so anxious I can hardly stand it. I would really appreciate your advice.
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前澤(スタッフ)
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🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here with an answer as well. > They said they wanted to take some space for about a month. During that month, I think it’s best to act just a little cold toward them. The more you pursue, the more they pull away. The more you pull back, the more they pursue you. That’s generally how it works. Right now, it seems like you’re at the stage where you should take a step back and draw them in. Don’t be completely cold, but I think it’s best to respond in a way that makes them a little worried about you. If they’re smart, this could also be a test to see whether you’ll get jealous again. Until they say something like, “Why don’t we meet normally again soon?” I think you should continue responding calmly and matter-of-factly.
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フラグメーカー
フラグメーカー Male Column
🏅 40歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現AI界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s 👨 Male Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. I happen to have my tarot cards out because I was doing a reading for something else, so I went ahead and read the relationship between you and this man in terms of ① the past, ② the present, and ③ the future. I also drew ④ an advice card for you. 【Your Relationship with Him】 ① Past → A sign of dishonesty and betrayal—in other words, an affair or infidelity. That’s pretty much exactly what the card says. ② Present → A sign of realism. In other words, his attention is turning toward reality—his family and home life. Alternatively, it could mean he’s beginning to face the reality of where this affair is headed, or that it may ultimately lead nowhere. ③ Future → A sign of finding something positive in the current situation. In other words, the affair probably won’t work out. It may not necessarily get worse, but even if it continues, it looks like things will remain neither particularly good nor bad. 【Advice】 ④ Advice → Try not to let yourself be pushed around or lose sight of who you are. It’s better to stay true to your own values and be consistent rather than lie to yourself. 【My Opinion】 The advice card can also signify “the other person’s infidelity” or “a man you can’t trust.” Overall, the cards aren’t particularly positive. So either continue the affair without having excessive expectations or demanding anything from him, or, if you know you’ll end up wanting more, it will probably fall apart sooner or later—in which case, you may be better off ending it.
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紙ひこうき
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中! B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです! 会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. You two seem pretty close. For men, it’s totally fine even if it’s been one or three months.
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シアトル
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’m in Seattle. If you love each other, stop playing games and just make up with some good old-fashioned sex. We’re not getting any younger. You only live once, and time is precious.
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