I’ve been offered this arrangement—what do you think about having him rent a place I could afford myself and letting me live there? If it were a luxury apartment I could never afford on my own, I might feel it was worth living there while accompanying my papa, but if it’s the same level—or possibly even lower—than the rental I’ve been paying for myself, I can’t help feeling it wouldn’t be worth it… It’s within my own budget, after all.
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For example, if I were renting an apartment for ¥80,000 a month on my own, how should I feel about being asked to move into an apartment costing ¥80,000–¥100,000, even if it’s in a great location? I find myself wondering about that. Everyone whose papa lets them live somewhere is living in a condo, right?
I’m fine with continuing to live in an apartment as I have been, but I feel sad—and honestly irritated—as though I’m being looked down on.
What other favorable terms would make you accept an arrangement like this? Or would you refuse it?
I’m Aya, a female member.
I don’t think you should do it.
If you can rent a place on your own, why take on the added risk of having a papa (a male supporter) involved…? And I have to wonder what that papa’s intentions are.
Could it be that he’s offering to cover the rent separately…?
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I’m BB7, a male member.
Is having a papa rent or buy you an apartment really the latest status symbol among PJs?
This question seems to come up regularly, but do you really want to be tied down by your papa that much?
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You really don’t understand the risks of having a papa (a male supporter) rent an apartment in his name for you—somewhere you could never afford to live on your own—and then living there.
Whether he looks down on you, which is what you’re focusing on, is completely beside the point. There are so many things you need to settle in advance: how close you actually are with your papa and what your relationship will be like going forward, what happens to the apartment if you break up, how long you’ll have to move out after either of you brings up ending things—as someone asked in another question—and who will cover the costs. You also need to decide how long you’ll continue receiving your monthly allowance, and so on. Otherwise, it can get very complicated.
Bringing this up while everything is going smoothly might make him think, “Are you assuming we’re going to break up?” So instead, why not just receive your allowance on a pay-per-meeting basis as usual, and if there’s anything extra, ask him to help a little with your current rent?
I ended up seriously answering such a ridiculous question.
Marika
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Questioner, you’re already a money monster.
If you want to live extravagantly, try working in nightlife or adult entertainment.
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I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this too.
> For example, if I was renting an apartment for ¥80,000 a month, I’m wondering what to make of being asked to move into an apartment costing ¥80,000–¥100,000, even if it’s in a good location.
If you feel even slightly that way, it means you’re not comfortable with the arrangement, so I think you should turn it down.
You could say something like:
“I’d be interested if it were a place I could never afford to live in myself, such as a high-rise apartment in Tokyo’s 23 wards, but I’ll have to decline this time.”
If you give a clear reason, they may be less likely to keep pressuring you.
That said, there is a chance they may think you’re only interested in money and end things with you.
Living in a place provided by the other person is a big decision, so I think you shouldn’t agree to anything unless the terms are ones you’re genuinely comfortable with.
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Hello!
I’m Kousaka, a staff member, and I’d like to answer as well.
To put it simply, I would absolutely never live there.
I completely understand how much it could help financially, but I’d be really scared knowing that someone other than family or a close friend knew my home address!
I also can’t help imagining that they might start making more demands, using “I’m letting you live here” as justification.
Maybe one option would be to create an environment where you can feel truly happy in the place you’re living now.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m not really sure what you mean by asking whether it’s “up” or “down,” so I’ll just address the main point.
The risk isn’t really about the rent itself—it’s living somewhere you’re not the tenant. Since the place is rented in someone else’s name, it isn’t truly your home, and the tenant can come and go as they please. If you’re not the tenant, you never know when you might suddenly be locked out.
As for whether it’s the right or left, I’m not sure. You should consult a feng shui expert.
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