Lately, I’ve been struggling because almost every man seems to have delayed ejaculation.
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Maybe I dry out too quickly, but so many of them and I just don’t seem to be in sync timing-wise, making the first date painful.
When I’m in pain, he pulls out and tries to get me wet, but I don’t get wet at all. In the meantime, he loses his erection, so he tries to get it up again with oral, and although I’m completely dry, he forces his way in and finishes.
I’ve tried using lubricant during sex, but the one time I did, he lost his erection because it was cold, so I haven’t used it since.
I feel like I’ve hit one of the challenges of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), in a way.
Is there anything that can be done about delayed ejaculation? Is using lubricant basically my only option?
If I use lubricant, is it common for a man to lose his erection because it feels cold?
Also, is there any way to tell beforehand, or a tactful way to ask without hurting his feelings?
I wish men would disclose it themselves, but I suppose it varies depending on the partner and their condition. If I knew from the start, I could either avoid them or put more effort into foreplay…
I’m Meg, a female member.
Yeah.
It’s all about how you feel.
Whether you’re going to meet him because you genuinely want to be held by him, right?
I suppose it’s rare to feel that way on a first date, but if it already feels painful the first time, wouldn’t you think, “I never want to see him again”?
My papa, you know, was someone who even appeared in my dreams before our first date. (I didn’t even know what he looked like yet—pretty funny, huh?)
That’s how much I built up my expectations before going to meet him! LOL
But it worked out perfectly.
(Note: Though there’s always a chance you could end up completely disappointed.)
My current goal is, without a doubt, to become a woman like Mac-sama’s weekend-marriage girlfriend!
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I’m a male member called Paper Airplane.
I don’t know whether to call it bad luck or just something that happens all the time… You really haven’t had much luck.
If you send me a reverse offer, shall I show you the ideal example?
I’m sure you’ll be praising me, saying, “That’s really good—yes, like that, right at this moment.”
It’s all about the man, with compatibility playing only a small part.
You don’t need jelly, and you don’t have to work hard with your mouth or hands either.
If I had to suggest anything, it would be to quietly practice reaching the finish on your own and work on becoming more sensitive and able to climax more easily…
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Thanks for your question.
> I’ve tried using lubricant gel partway through, but I once had the other person lose interest because it was cold.
If you fill the bathtub with warm water and place it in there, it’ll warm up. I’m not sure if the coldness actually causes them to lose interest, but it might feel like a shock.
So you could warm it up beforehand, bring it to the bed, and use it partway through.
There are also warming types like the ones sold at adult shops, so you might want to try one by yourself first to make sure you’re comfortable with it.
> Is there anything I can do about delayed ejaculation?
I don’t think there’s any particular solution, but you could try using a thinner condom, or get yourself almost there before penetration so that you can finish soon after.
That said, it sounds pretty difficult.
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