Some men invite you to their car or home on the day of the first date. Do they have a low awareness of personal safety, or do they think, “Surely no woman would ever be worried about me in particular”? I can’t imagine going alone with someone into their territory after having dinner together just once (at the man’s request!).

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here. Thank you for your question. For a first date arranged through Universe Club, we generally ask women not to come by car. That said, at regional branches, public transportation may be limited to buses and other less convenient options. If the area around the branch is one where the woman would not feel uncomfortable, coming by car from the first date is allowed as long as she is informed in advance through the staff. In regional areas where having a car is practically essential, many women come by car themselves. Even at the Omiya branch, which may be considered regional, there have been women who came to their interviews by car. So, for some people, a car is simply their everyday means of transportation. This can be true even for people living in cities like Tokyo or Osaka. Whether they’re just going to the supermarket nearby or not, some people drive everywhere, no matter the distance. Therefore, while it’s not allowed for the first meeting—with the exceptions mentioned above—I don’t think it would be a problem from the second meeting onward, as long as the two of you discuss it and she’s okay with it. Based on your question, it sounds like you want her not to come by car until the two of you have an adult relationship (intimate). Why not just tell her that directly? “Please don’t come by car until we have an adult relationship. If you want that to happen, please meet with me a few more times.” Something along those lines.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. As for cars… I personally like driving alone while listening to my favorite music, so I wouldn’t want to give a ride to anyone unless we were very close ^^; It’s a hassle having to check afterward for stray hairs or anything they might have left behind. That said, I’m sure there are men who enjoy driving women around, or who are used to getting around by car and don’t want to take the train. If I were in the opposite position, I wouldn’t want to get in a car or go to the home of a man I’d met through a site like this until we’d built up some trust. You never know what might happen.

I’m in Seattle. If it’s the woman’s home, that’s one thing, but if it’s the man’s place, there is at least the advantage that his address can be traced if he commits a crime. Maybe he just wants to show off his fancy home. Still, no one should pressure you. As for the car, make sure to note down the license plate number.

I’m Kazu, a male member who can’t hire a housekeeper because I don’t want strangers coming into my home. I think it’s less about being security-conscious and more about lacking consideration for others. I can understand not wanting to go into someone else’s home, but I can’t relate to not wanting to get in a car—I simply know that some people feel that way. Ultimately, I don’t think it’s fundamentally a matter of age or gender. That said, I do think women are more likely to have been taught these things by their parents. When it comes to consideration for others, women have far more opportunities than men to be conscious of it, so I imagine very few women lack that kind of sensitivity.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who’s sometimes invited into a girl’s home when the first date goes really well. I pick her up by car for the first date. Her home may be off-limits, but if you can’t even get in a car together, do you really need to join a club? Since it’s a club, I feel you should at least cross that line—being alone together in a car or at a hotel… Honestly, I don’t think there’s any need for them to be registered. It seems the clubs don’t really need Type A members, but they don’t mind having them around, so they offer that option. (Personally, I make offers regardless of whether someone is Type A or not…)