I’m the person who asked about my papa losing his erection during sex in this question! I was concerned because my papa, whom I’m close with and travel domestically with for about 4–5 nights every month, lost his erection for the first time after we argued on the first day of a trip and I called him an “old geezer.”
In the end, I had my period throughout the entire trip, so we didn’t do anything. When we met again the following week, we also didn’t do anything that night because he was suffering from a hangover and looked like he was dying, while I was exhausted from work. But that night he said, “Let’s have sex tomorrow,” and the next morning we did it four times in a row (though he only ejaculated once). I don’t think he took Viagra.
My papa doesn’t really like being pleasured by hand or mouth, so I was worried because there was no way I could make up for him losing his erection by doing that. Thank you, everyone. He’s in his mid-50s, and I’m relieved to know it probably wasn’t my fault. We’ve been seeing each other for several years, but I feel like we’ve somehow become even closer than before.
So, my final question is: Can a man lose his erection because of minor changes in his physical or mental condition? Is it not always an issue of affection?
I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane.
Losing his erection midway has nothing to do with affection or love. However, at a club, whether or not a man loses his erection can be an important factor in deciding whether to continue seeing someone.
In fact, if a girl comes along with whom he doesn’t lose his erection and the chemistry is also great, then even with someone he’s had perfect chemistry with and seen regularly for a long time, losing his erection can make there be less and less reason to keep meeting her.
Losing his erection is a crisis for both parties when it comes to continuing the relationship. At a club, it’s even more so because another girl can appear right away.
At a club, if things come down to using your mouth or hands, as you mentioned—which is normal between romantic partners—it becomes little different from a sex service. So losing his erection becomes an even more decisive factor, since it reflects his level of satisfaction.
Perhaps he’s taking medication without realizing what it is. There’s no need to ask, and the man doesn’t need to tell you either. Rather than trying to make him finish with your hands or mouth, what matters is making him feel that being with you is the best place for him. It’s important not to give him any other stimulation besides that.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Thanks for the excellent question. Regarding, “Does losing an erection midway happen because of minor physical or mental changes in men? Is it really not always about feelings?”—I think this is something many women misunderstand.
Erections have nothing to do with affection. Absolutely nothing.
If affection were necessary for an erection, every male customer would be in love with the women working in adult entertainment. In reality, I think 99% of male customers don’t have even the slightest affection for them. If they did, I’d have to say, “Wow, you really fall in love easily.”
This is important, so I’ll say it again:
Erections have absolutely nothing to do with affection.
If anything, having too much affection can sometimes make a man too nervous to get or maintain an erection. That’s not because of the affection itself, but because he may be unable to focus on the pleasure.
Anyway, I’m glad things worked out with your papa (a male supporter). Congratulations.
> Mack
> Kazu and Riichi, how do you decide, “I have feelings for this woman”? (^^;
I gave it some thought.
To give an example that fits a dating club: if you feel happy when she asks, “When can I see you again?” then you probably have feelings for her. If you find it annoying, you probably don’t.
> Though this is only after having sex at least five times.
As you wrote, you were able to get and maintain erections during at least those five encounters even when you didn’t have feelings for her. (笑)
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