Maezawa from the president’s office will answer this one as well.
Thank you for your question.
> “He kept insisting that I eat what he originally ordered, even though I refused, so I ate it because he pressured me.”
This is where your reasoning is mistaken.
There’s a common saying: “If someone told you to die, would you actually die?”
In other words, no matter how much you’re pressured, you ultimately make the decision to eat it yourself. Before that, you were also invited to have a meal together, agreed, and took a seat at the table.
From that perspective, I think it’s better to understand that blaming the papa (a male supporter) is not quite right.
That said, ordinarily, if someone became ill after eating at a restaurant you took them to, you would naturally feel sorry that it happened.
But that is separate from legal responsibility.
You said this lasted quite a long time. If so, it may not have been simple food poisoning from something that disagreed with you, but an actual foodborne illness. I assume you went to a doctor—weren’t you diagnosed with food poisoning at that point? If it was food poisoning, I would expect the public health center to investigate and identify the cause.
Also, if the food poisoning was caused by negligence, you might at least have received some compensation as a get-well payment.
> “I’d like to receive a get-well payment equivalent to one allowance payment.”
You absolutely should not say this.
As mentioned above, it wasn’t the papa’s fault in the first place, so asking for it would be inappropriate.
> “I lost income because of the food poisoning… I’m struggling this month.”
If you mean you can no longer see that particular papa and therefore lost the allowance you would have received from him, he might offer to help because he feels sorry for you.
But if you mean you lost income because you couldn’t meet other men, he probably wouldn’t want to pay, and it may make him question your common sense.
The proper attitude would be: “It wasn’t your fault, but I could use some help.”
Of course, if he does help you, once you’re feeling better, you should show your gratitude by saying something like, “I have a little more room in my budget this month, so you don’t have to give me an allowance for one meeting.”
Expressing that kind of appreciation may make him think you’re a good woman and want to treat you even better.
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
That depends on the papa, lol. If it were me, I’d feel bad and give it to you, but not everyone is like that. If you ask and he responds badly, that gives you a good excuse to end things. Just ask him.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
You’re welcome to say that when asking for advice, but I’d really like you to let go of the idea that you should receive a consolation payment.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
If the person asking is someone he wants to continue seeing badly enough to give her an extra allowance payment, he might give her some compensation. Personally, though, I think she’s far more likely to get cut off than to receive anything.
If you really want compensation, you should at least start by getting a medical certificate from a doctor.
Come to think of it, a woman I was seeing once got an offer and then became ill during the meal on her first date. As a result, our date was called off, and I had to cancel my hotel reservation. Should I have demanded compensation from the man who made her the offer—covering both the allowance I was supposed to give her and the cost of my hotel?
