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I’m a 60-year-old man posting for the first time. I’ve been a member of Universe Club for two years, but I think I may have developed ED (erectile dysfunction). I can ejaculate through masturbation, but I can’t get fully erect. I do genuinely want to meet a female member and have sex, but when I think about being in that situation, I’m filled with anxiety.

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My wife and I have also been in a sexless marriage for nearly ten years. There are medications that can help with erections, but taking them alongside my medication for existing conditions such as diabetes and high blood pressure seems difficult. So my question is: after meeting a woman a few times, would it be okay to tell her about my ED and explain that I’d like to have sex, even though I’m not sure whether I’ll be able to? I’m worried she’ll immediately lose interest and end things. I’d appreciate any advice.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office will answer as well. Thank you for your question. > There are medications that promote erections, but taking them together with medication for existing conditions such as diabetes or high blood pressure seems difficult. There it is again—someone deciding on their own that they can’t do something. I’m sorry if you’ve already consulted a doctor and were told it wasn’t possible. In Japan, these medications aren’t available at pharmacies; they require a doctor’s prescription. Even so, many people seem to assume they can’t take them based on rumors or general hearsay, without consulting a doctor. I think you should see a doctor at least once and ask whether it’s truly not possible. If you explain exactly what medications you’re currently taking, the doctor should be able to determine whether it’s safe. For example, might it be okay if you simply take the medications at different times? Also, if you’ve heard that ED medication doesn’t work for people with diabetes, even a quick online search will turn up articles saying that isn’t necessarily true. ----- Levitra tablets improve erectile function in patients with diabetes. Efficacy was evaluated based on the percentage of patients who answered that they had “successfully achieved penetration” 12 weeks after starting treatment with Levitra 10 mg, 20 mg, or a placebo. Levitra showed a significant improvement in erectile function. When the Levitra groups were compared, the 20 mg group showed a significantly greater improvement than the 10 mg group. [Subjects] 778 patients aged 26–64 who had diabetes for at least three years (currently receiving medication or with an HbA1c level of 6.5% or higher at the start of the observation period) and erectile dysfunction. [Method] Levitra 10 mg, 20 mg, or a placebo was administered orally once, one hour before intercourse, for 12 weeks. Efficacy and safety were examined using a randomized, double-blind, placebo-controlled, fixed-dose, three-group comparative study. The medication was administered no more than once a day. [Side effects] Among the 672 patients included in the safety analysis, side effects occurred in 22.0% of the 10 mg group (74/337) and 24.2% of the 20 mg group (81/335). The main side effects were hot flushes in 76 patients (11.3%), headaches in 28 (4.2%), palpitations in 17 (2.5%), and nasal congestion in 15 (2.2%). ----- > I’m not sure whether I’ll be able to, but would it be okay to tell her that I’d like to be intimate? I think it’s fine to be honest about it. Even if things don’t work out, the premise is that you still pay the allowance to the person who spent time with you.
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I’m Kazu, a male member. I think you should be honest and tell her, “I’d like to be intimate, although I’m not sure whether I’ll be able to.” If she doesn’t know about your situation and you can’t get an erection, she may worry that it’s because she isn’t attractive enough. Even if things don’t work out, as long as you don’t pressure her, I don’t think she’ll dislike you.
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I’m Hikōki, a male member. What are you looking for from the woman you’re seeing? What kind of relationship do you actually want to build? Do you want to be intimate despite having ED, make her perform oral sex until you climax, have her caress you, and put her through an unpleasant experience? Or don’t you want to go on dates while enjoying her happiness, with intimacy simply being an extension of that? If you can’t show her that you’re enjoying yourself, I think she’ll still have a good time if you show her that you’re having fun and feeling satisfied in ways other than that (sex). This isn’t a sex-service business. You don’t have to make her caress you or perform oral sex, but you do need to express your pleasure and satisfaction—your excitement and enjoyment. Otherwise, she’ll find it boring. I think she can only really put in the effort once she feels that you’re genuinely excited and satisfied with her. Who would want to continue such an exhausting relationship…? A dating club—and romance as well—is about making a woman happy, treating her well, being considerate, constantly keeping her in a good mood, and enjoying that together. It’s about being captivated by her charm and expressing your happiness and satisfaction alongside the allowance. It isn’t simply about the allowance.
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