My papa often tells me that being young is inherently wonderful, but I can’t help feeling a little uncomfortable about it.
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My papa often goes to host and hostess clubs, and says things like, “The nightlife business is struggling because of COVID, but young women aren’t being fired even if they’re only moderately attractive.” In other words, he believes that being young is an advantage in itself.
But when he tells me things like that, I’m just thinking, “What am I supposed to say to that...?” so I usually give a vague response. For context, I’m in my early thirties, have never worked in the nightlife industry, and just feel completely lost when he starts talking about it.
Why does he talk to me about the nightlife industry? I’ve never worked in that world, and I’m not young enough to benefit simply from my age, as he puts it, so I can’t follow the conversation and don’t know how to respond. I understand that youth is wonderful, but I also have a positive outlook on my current age and on growing older. So whenever my papa goes on and on about how great it is to be young, I can only give an awkward smile.
I’m Taro, a male member.
If your papa is telling you, even though you’re not young, that younger women are great, then he must really trust you. More than that, I think you’ve already become a subject to him, not an object.
So you should take it in stride. Something like, “Yeah, younger girls are nice, aren’t they?” should be perfectly fine. On the other hand, if you get strangely angry, sulk, or argue back, I think your papa will be confused. Because you’re already a subject to him. If someone argues against what you yourself are thinking, you’d be thrown off too. At that point, it’s practically a mental disorder.
In short, you’re already his second wife, so stop freaking out like an insecure girlfriend who never knows when the relationship might end.
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You may not understand it yet at around 30, but there will probably come a time when you’re 60 or 70 and think, “30 is so young.”
I think that’s probably what he means.
From a man’s perspective, you’re very young, and he’s probably saying that simply being young comes with many advantages.
As for the cabaret club example, that was probably just the only example he could think of.
So when you say something like, “I’m not young anymore,” he’ll probably respond, “What are you talking about? You’re still very young—especially compared with me.” That should help you realize he genuinely means it.
Try imagining yourself at 70. That may help you understand what he’s saying.
If you still don’t get it, just assume it’s because he’s older and go along with the conversation.
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When it comes to the physical side of things, youth has the advantage for both men and women.
But I believe that after the age of 30, both men and women can become more attractive as they get older—at least up to a certain age.
That’s probably because, with age, experience, and the mistakes they’ve made, they become better able to understand other people’s pain. They develop better judgment and skills, gain a sense of composure, and become capable of showing consideration and sharing a calm presence with others.
I think your early thirties can be an especially attractive period for a woman, and that you’re more than capable of captivating men. So perhaps you should simply enjoy watching the man in question.
“You’re superior to younger women. You’re that wonderful. You’re still young enough to have conversations like this. I’m already completely captivated by you.” I think he was probably praising you quite extensively in an indirect way—or directly, from his perspective.
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They probably just can’t think of anything else to talk about, so they say whatever comes to mind without considering how the other person might feel. There are quite a few people like that.
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That guy is probably jealous of your youth. I know I am.
Sometimes I think, “If I had the money I have now and were 20 years younger, I’d have been popular.” But there’s no point saying it, so I keep it to myself—though some people do say things like that. I guess I’m saying it here too.
Well, this site is entertainment for both questioners and answerers, so please forgive me.
Aging comes for everyone equally. Even if you become a 90-year-old trillionaire investor, there’s no point if you can’t enjoy or use the money.
You could just tell him, “Today is the youngest I’ll ever be, so make it enjoyable for me.”
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