Many of you are probably company owners or in positions where you hire people, but if you’re involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), do you choose your employees based on their looks? Do you have intimate relationships with your employees?
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Do you hire people you find yourself thinking, “I want to sleep with them!”? Or do you choose them based on their work ethic and abilities? Still, if someone is capable and attractive, you’d choose them without hesitation, right? I’m thinking about changing jobs, so I’d appreciate your advice.
When I was in graduate school, the president of a company where I worked for about three months in a professional capacity was, looking back, the beginning of my mistress arrangement.
People at work told me that after I joined, the president started coming to the workplace more often. He also frequently took me out to lunch.
It was pretty obvious, haha.
Even after the three months were over, our relationship continued. We ended up having a monthly arrangement, and he even rented an apartment for me.
In my case, it developed that way because the job was temporary from the start, but if you’re applying for a proper full-time position, you’re better off avoiding a company like that. Rumors and workplace relationships will never end well.
Keep your sexy aura well hidden and go into the interview with a serious, professional attitude.
Though if you’re genuinely beautiful and have a sensual side, it may show through anyway…
Still, I think that’s better than flaunting it blatantly.
Marika
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I’m in Seattle.
I’ve personally chosen and employed an attractive housekeeper for six years, but I haven’t had the courage to make a move. What should I do?
Exactly. It’s fun to fantasize about, and we have a good relationship, so if she ever gets divorced, I’ll make a move.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
As soon as I saw this question, I was reminded of something one of the other respondents, Saito♪, once said.
The question at the time was something like, “If I’m going to do it anyway, I’d rather keep a mistress at the company…”
Saito♪’s response was: “Your company will go under.”
That one really packed a punch! I always found myself bowing down before those hard-hitting one-liners of theirs. I wonder how they’re doing these days～
Well, that’s basically it.
Good luck with your job search (*^^*)
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
Thank you for your question.
When it comes to changing jobs, candidates are basically chosen based on their abilities, so I don’t think you need to worry that much about your appearance.
That said, it’s difficult to fully assess someone’s abilities or personality in a short interview, so I feel that appearance inevitably comes into play.
But this isn’t about anything like having a mistress. It’s simply that attractive people may come across as more capable or as having a nicer personality.
I don’t think you should overthink it, though.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Haha（笑）
That way of thinking might not be a bad idea, but it sounds like you’d be given a psychological evaluation.
Still, I might make an exception and take on one person...
I’m not an employee either, but I’m currently supporting one person（笑）
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
If it involved just one employee, maybe it could work, but generally speaking, I’d say no.
At a company I used to work for, the male president and a female employee became lovers. A coworker who had been close to her before that became jealous and tried to bring the company down by forming a faction and involving other employees. This angered the president, and he forced everyone in the faction out of the company. It was a fairly small company with fewer than 20 employees, but nearly half the staff ended up being driven to resign, and the atmosphere became extremely tense. As someone who had remained neutral, I just wanted them to stop already.
Being able to enjoy activities through the club is possible because my work is going smoothly. I keep those two things separate.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
One of my former clients was a company where almost all the female employees were, well, “sexy older-sister types.”
I used to visit whenever I knew the president would be away. Not that it ever led to any actual business, lol.
Their real source of recruitment was probably scouting, not interviews. Otherwise, there’s no way they could have assembled a lineup like that.
P.S. This company was also based in Nagoya, lol.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I’ve worked for all kinds of companies, so it depends on the situation. But when hiring female office staff at a small company, I deliberately prioritized appearance. Workplace relationships—including with me—were strictly off-limits, but having attractive women around clearly boosted the male employees’ morale. Compared with sales positions, differences in office-work skills have less impact.
I often hear about companies like the one you’re imagining, so there are probably plenty of examples. But even aside from that, some companies strategically prioritize appearance when hiring, while others consider it an absolute no-go and leave it out of their criteria entirely. You can usually tell which type a company is by looking at the receptionists—especially at midsize and small businesses, haha.
I forgot to include this in my original answer, so I’m adding it now. If you want to change jobs with the aim of becoming the president’s mistress, your best bet is to find a company where the president keeps mistresses within the company, doesn’t limit himself to just one, and deliberately gathers potential candidates. Start by looking at several of the company’s women, either at reception or on its website. If (1) many of them are attractive, (2) they all seem to fit the same type for some reason, and (3) you fit that type too, I’d say your chances are pretty high.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t hire people based on their looks or make advances toward female employees—I think only fools do that. There’s no reason to disrupt workplace morale myself. I make hiring decisions based purely on the abilities I expect for the job and whether the person seems unlikely to create friction with colleagues.
For mid-career hires, I also look at their work history. In my case, I ask why they decided to change jobs. They already have experience as working adults, so I don’t want to hear the vague answers you might get from a new graduate. I want to know what they were dissatisfied with at their previous job, what they’re looking for in their next one, and how they want to build their career.
Of course, depending on the position—customer service, for example—cleanliness and overall presentation can affect the hiring decision in addition to personality. But in that case, appearance is simply part of the job performance I’m looking for.
That said, you can’t really understand a person from a mere interview. Interviews are difficult.
Come to think of it, several female employees have jokingly asked me to make them my mistress. Naturally, I turned them down politely. To be honest, one of them had the face I liked best in the company, so I did feel a little regretful. She has since left the company after getting married, but she probably still has connections with her former colleagues, so I haven’t contacted her.
Dating someone you’re closely connected to can lead to trouble, so I use a dating club where I can meet women who are complete strangers.
Of course, there are business owners who prefer to hire attractive women. Those owners are widely ridiculed—by fellow business owners, business partners, and people within their companies alike. I couldn’t stand having rumors spread around the office just because I went out to eat with an attractive female employee. So I only go out to eat one-on-one with male employees.
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