Is it really impossible not to go into “sage mode”? When someone stays kind even afterward, I end up loving them more and more emotionally and think, “I’ll do even better next time!” But when they suddenly become cold, get harsh with me, or go silent, I gradually start disliking someone I thought was a good person, and being intimate with them becomes painful.
This content is machine-translated.
I feel almost longing and lonely after intimacy, so if there’s nothing afterward, my feelings cool off all at once. No matter how much money I receive or how much I’m told it’s just a simulated romance, I still lose interest, and it’s difficult for me.
I understand that it’s a natural physical response, but it still makes me wonder whether their usually kind words and behavior were fake, or whether they have a split personality. It’s sad, and honestly pretty infuriating, when “sage mode” feels like nothing more than an excuse...
Is it because this is just for fun?
Not only with partners from here, but if a boyfriend I date in the future goes into sage mode, can I take that as proof that he doesn’t really care about me and decide he isn’t worth dating?
If someone truly loves you, they wouldn’t go into sage mode, right?
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
The closer you are as a couple, the more quickly you slip into “sage mode”—the moment it’s over, you suddenly start talking about everyday things as if you were a completely different person…
She says, “You’re only sweet before we have sex…”
With women from the club, if you’re lucky enough to find someone you’re truly compatible with and you both reach the end at the same time, you can stay in that lingering-afterglow mode. Neither of you ends up experiencing that awkward “sage mode” period.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> I understand when someone suddenly turns cold, gets harsh with me, or gives me the silent treatment. Even if I used to think they were a good person, I start to dislike them, and being intimate with them becomes painful.
I understand. Basically, men feel the same way, too.
I think it depends on the person. Maybe that’s all they’re thinking about? Or perhaps they have another appointment coming up and are more concerned about that?
There could be other reasons as well, but if they’re always like that, it might be worth reconsidering the relationship.
I believe a relationship should be enjoyable for both people.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer too.
Thanks for your question.
Hmm, I don’t think it’s necessarily the case that someone suddenly becomes cold or starts treating you harshly just because they’re in their post-orgasm cooldown.
That said, since they’re in that state, they might not like it if you touch them there during that time.
Afterward, I think it’s best for the woman to remain lying down until the man starts moving again. It may be considerate to watch what he does and adjust accordingly.
By the way, apparently people whose prolactin levels don’t increase after ejaculation don’t experience this post-orgasm cooldown.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
