The man who offered me an arrangement keeps asking me out.
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Even though we haven’t seen each other in about a year, he contacts me every few months asking to meet.
And it’s always sudden, like, “Are you free tomorrow?”
He’s even stood me up after we made plans.
I’ve started ignoring his messages or replying curtly because I feel like he may be using me whenever it’s convenient for him, as if I’m just filling in for another girl.
He should offer an arrangement to someone else.
I’m honestly exhausted from him contacting me over and over. Does anyone have any good suggestions for how to turn him down?
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
It’s hard to know what kind of person the men contacting you are, but...
Ignoring or blocking them is perfectly fine. However, you could also reply each time with something like:
“I’m taking a break from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) right now... I’m busy with work, so please try contacting someone else.”
If you keep telling them, “I can’t see you right now,” they’ll probably eventually give up.
A former female member who said she occasionally received messages like you do also told me that, after politely declining each time, the messages eventually stopped.
That said, some men may be people to avoid, so please handle the situation carefully.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Thank you for your question.
You’ve really done your best for this long. If you’ve decided you can’t take it anymore, I think it’s fine to say something like:
“This is the last time I’m going to tell you: please don’t contact me again. It’s a nuisance. After you canceled on me at the last minute, I decided I wouldn’t see you again.”
Then block them.
Or perhaps the safest option is to say nothing and quietly block them.
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