I’m a male member who joined this year.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well. > Which do women honestly prefer: a monthly arrangement or pay-per-meeting? I don’t often hear women say that they particularly prefer one over the other. If anything, I think they’re more interested in the amount of the allowance, so whether it’s pay-per-meeting or a monthly arrangement may not matter that much. Especially for serious-minded women, they may worry about what happens to their monthly allowance if they can’t meet due to their own circumstances. When I hear that, I think they’re sincere, good women, but it seems that monthly arrangements can also feel like a burden. So I think the best thing is to ask the woman herself. That said, as I mentioned earlier, what matters is the amount of the allowance. I think you should be careful not to misjudge that. When a man suddenly loses contact after meeting someone about three times, he often wonders, “Why? Everything seemed to be going so well.” But from the woman’s perspective, she may be putting up with an allowance she feels is too low. Even then, without letting him know, she’ll put on a little act—something along the lines of, “This allowance is enough for me. I really enjoy spending time with you.” It’s precisely because she can put on that kind of act that a man sees her as a likable, wonderful woman. So if you’re fond of her, you should pay even more attention to whether she’s genuinely satisfied with the allowance you think is appropriate. Of course, that’s exactly why you may wonder how much other men are offering. But even if you find that out, unless you know how much your current favorite woman could receive from other men, there’s still a possibility that she may suddenly stop contacting you. And normally, there’s no way to know how much she could get from other men. It’s not easy, but I think you may start to understand these things as you gain more experience.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I always do pay-per-meeting arrangements, and the allowance is the same each time. My biggest concern is that every now and then, I genuinely almost forget to give the woman her allowance. I’ve actually forgotten a few times and had to turn around and go back to her place—some unpleasant memories there(^^ゞ Monthly arrangements seem mentally complicated to me. For example, if the terms are 150,000 yen per month or 50,000 yen per meeting, you’d have to meet three times a month for the allowance to be the same. But there are inevitably times when you can’t meet due to work, personal matters, or physical reasons. If you only met once that month, most men would probably feel dissatisfied. Should the two missed meetings carry over to the following month? Should the allowance be reduced for the meetings that didn’t happen? Is it even okay to negotiate things like this with the woman? You end up having to think about all these unnecessary details. With pay-per-meeting arrangements, you don’t have to worry about any of that. If you feel that you’re willing to pay a certain amount for this particular woman regardless of how many times you meet each month, then I think a monthly arrangement is fine.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Simply put, women would probably welcome a monthly arrangement if the monthly allowance is higher than what they’d earn from an allowance per meeting. Even better if they still get paid when they can’t meet as often. On the other hand, if it ends up being a better deal for the man—like a commuter pass—women probably wouldn’t be too happy. So does that mean pay-per-meeting is what allows women to meet as often as they want without holding back? Though I can’t help feeling that wanting to meet someone and expecting an allowance are closely connected…

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. You mean from the woman’s perspective, right? I think a generous allowance can solve just about anything, but you could also view the amount she wants as “variable,” since it changes depending on the circumstances, timing, and her feelings. If you pay close attention to your partner’s mood and emotional changes and don’t neglect communication, you should be able to get a fairly good sense of it. Probably.

I’m Kazu, a male member. To put it briefly: “I offer the same allowance terms to everyone on a pay-per-meeting basis.” When I asked one woman what kind of allowance she wanted, she replied, “〇 for pay-per-meeting, or 〇〇 for a monthly arrangement.” I’m a pay-per-meeting kind of guy because I find it a hassle to think about how often we’d meet under a monthly arrangement. Since her pay-per-meeting request matched the amount I had in mind, we agreed on that. Later, I asked her, “Come to think of it, you also mentioned a monthly arrangement. Would you have preferred that?” She said she had brought it up because some men prefer monthly arrangements. Personally, she was happier with pay-per-meeting since there was less room for misunderstandings. I feel the same way. Regarding what Mac said—that “it’s generally safest to keep the allowance and treatment equal for everyone”—I agree. I’m currently plotting a skills-up workshop and women’s networking event, inviting interested women I’ve been intimate with and had candid conversations with. It’s nice that this approach eliminates the elements most likely to cause backlash. If it actually happens, I’m thinking of turning it into a column, so stay tuned（笑）