I’m a male member. I’d appreciate advice from anyone with experience regarding online dates.
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With a regular date, I assume it often follows a pattern like (1) through (3) below (assuming the woman’s relationship type is C).
(1) Meet the woman and have a meal for about an hour.
(2) If you like her during the meal, ask, “Would you like to go to a hotel afterward for an allowance of ¥XX?” (Sometimes the woman agrees, and sometimes she declines.)
(3) If you don’t like her, give her ¥10,000 for transportation and part ways.
On the other hand, although an online date lasts 30 minutes, is it common to ask during that time, if you like the woman, “Would you like to go to a hotel next time for an allowance of ¥XX?” (I assume that, just as with a regular date, she may either agree or decline.)
Or is it better to limit the 30-minute online date to exchanging contact information and making plans for the next date, then make an offer like the one in (2) above—including negotiating the amount—when you actually meet in person next time?
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here—I’ll answer as well.
First of all, you’ve got the usual date sequence wrong. (笑)
Please follow the rules.
Assuming this is Type C:
1. Meet up with the woman at the agreed meeting place.
2. When you sit down for the meal, give her ¥5,000–¥10,000 upfront. ← This is the part you haven’t been doing.
3. If you like her during the meal, ask, “Would you like to go to a hotel afterward? I can give you an allowance of ¥___.” (She may accept or decline.)
That said, this is ultimately a matter of free dating, so the destination doesn’t have to be a hotel. You might also suggest having drinks at a bar, for example.
For an online date, the 30 minutes are completely free-form.
At first, you’ll probably need some conversation to help you both relax and get comfortable. After about 10 minutes, once you feel the other person has loosened up a bit, it’s fine to start discussing the main topic.
However, even on the second date and beyond, I think it’s better to start with a meal and let things develop from there.
You also need to approach it with the mindset of enjoying the date.
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I’m a male member who goes by “Paper Airplane.”
When meeting online, you can discuss the allowance within the first five minutes.
You can ask what she’s looking for, or invite her by saying, “How about we go to a hotel next time for an allowance of ¥〇〇,000?”
If she’s a Type C, you should definitely discuss the allowance. Almost everyone in Type C will tell you the amount they’re hoping for.
With Type C, the shorter the meeting—the sooner it ends, even in 10 minutes—the better.
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