I’m completely smitten with a woman I’d like to see three or four times a month. I’m not concerned about the money, and the allowance—7 to 10, which she set herself—should be more than enough. We’ve met many times, gotten comfortable with each other, and share the same interests. She also gets excited and enjoys our dates every time.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > “I’m not concerned about the money, and the allowance—7 to 100, as set by the woman herself—should be more than enough.” I believe the amount the woman set is probably the per-person amount if she’s seeing multiple men. It’s normal for her to feel that this alone isn’t enough. She may even be hoping to receive ¥1 million a month. In that case, it seems she would only need five people supporting her with ¥200,000 each. Perhaps you, the person asking, could easily support her with around ¥1 million a month on your own. But I think women also prefer to spread out their risk. So wouldn’t it be best to look on kindly, with the attitude that everyone should support such a wonderful woman together?

I’m Hikouki, a male member. Meeting about twice a month can be a good pace for a relationship to last! I know someone who has maintained a good relationship for over 30 years at about that frequency. The allowance is much lower than what you’re offering, though… Being able to provide that kind of allowance means the relationship is important to both of you. If you let the relationship develop at her pace over the years, there’s a good chance that eventually she may be the one to say she’d like to meet more often, just as you hope. The difference that arises then is this: women tend to want their allowance increased over time the more often they meet. Even if you continue giving the same amount, someone like that will eventually stop feeling it’s particularly generous and may no longer appreciate it as much, thinking, “I’m worth that much.” Men, on the other hand, tend to feel less value as a woman gets older and they meet more often, and may start to feel that continuing to pay the same allowance is a waste. As a result, most men (papas) eventually become interested in someone new and move on. That may be your opportunity. However, until you reach that point, as long as she remains registered with the club, she’ll continue receiving new offers, so it could take quite a few years. Also, a woman like that will probably have any man completely wrapped around her finger, and she’s likely receiving similar allowances from many men. Unfortunately, unless you offer enough to equal what several men provide, there probably won’t be much incentive for her to increase the number of times she meets you.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I suppose it’s about securing a backup.

I’m Saito, the columnist♪ Besides, what’s wrong with having other men as well?

I’m Seattle, a male member. I think these are probably the right answers: ↓ ・I’d feel uneasy if I had nothing left once things ended with just one papa, so I want to keep multiple papas for peace of mind. ・I already have several generous papas, and if I want to see them all evenly, I inevitably have to reduce the number of times I meet each one. If you absolutely want exclusivity, you’ll have to offer a substantial amount upfront—or get married. I feel like being satisfied with things as they are now makes it easier to avoid getting bored and keep the relationship going longer.